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Kate Middleton says motherhood is ‘an incredible privilege’—and we agree

The most important work we do starts in our own homes. 

Kate Middleton says motherhood is ‘an incredible privilege’—and we agree

For many of us parenting young children, the word “privilege” likely doesn’t come to mind when we’re changing diapers or debating lunch choices or reminding them to keep their hands to themselves.


But let us not forget that—really, truly—parenting these little humans is among the greatest honors in life, even for often-honored royal Kate Middleton.

The soon-to-be mother-of-three “feels it’s an incredible privilege to be a mum,” Peter Fonagy, head of the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families and personal friend of Middleton, tells People.

So often the conversation about parenting revolves around what we could, should, would do. But while there’s no getting around the fact that raising children is a big responsibility, it’s also important to take the moment to appreciate what a wonderful responsibility that is: We are the most influential people in their lives. And our children—with their beautiful world views, imaginations and sense of curiosity—should be the most influential people in our lives, too.

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It’s clear that Middleton not only finds a lot of joy and fulfillment in motherhood, but she’s also committed to helping other parents feel the same way through her advocacy work with organizations like Heads Together, which promotes healthy dialogues about mental health in families. As Fonagy adds, Middleton is “genuinely interested” in bringing professionals and parents together to “positively influence the lives of children.”

“She’s very keen on children and keen that they should be happy,” says Fonagy, who’s worked with Middleton through Heads Together. “Part of her interest in prevention is to make sure that she does things right in her own parenting.”

As Middleton herself has said before, her advocacy work has “definitely had an impact on how I look at how I mother, how we work as a family and how we hope to bring up our children.”

For Middleton, that means acknowledging her young children have real, important emotions of their own about life changes. Now that baby number three is due any day, sources close to the royal couple say expectant parents are preparing 4-year-old George and 2-year-old Charlotte for the inevitable shift to follow their new sibling’s arrival.

Says Sarah Dixon, a former maternity nurse close to the royals, “The family will be doing all they can to talk about the new baby and get the children as involved as possible, including them assisting with nursery decoration and choosing toys for the new arrival.”

Then, soon enough, Middleton will be back to her work with advocacy groups. But, like she seems to know, let us not forget that the most meaningful work we do starts in our own homes.

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This is how we’re defining success this school year

Hint: It's not related to grades.

In the ever-moving lives of parents and children, opportunities to slow down and reflect on priorities can be hard to come by. But a new school year scheduled to begin in the midst of a global pandemic offers the chance to reflect on how we should all think about measures of success. For both parents and kids, that may mean putting a fresh emphasis on optimism, creativity and curiosity.

Throughout recent decades, "school success" became entangled with "academic achievement," with cases of anxiety among school children dramatically increasing in the past few generations. Then, almost overnight, the American school system was turned on its head in the spring of 2020. As we look ahead to a new school year that will look like no year past, more is being asked of teachers, students and parents, such as acclimating to distance learning, collaborating with peers from afar and aiming to maintain consistency with schooling amidst general instability due to COVID.

Despite the inherent challenges, there is also an overdue opportunity to redefine success during the school year by finding fresh ways to keep students and their parents involved in the learning process.

"I always encourage my son to try at least one difficult thing every school year," says Arushi Garg, parenting blogger and mom of a 4-year-old. "This challenges him but also allows me to remind him to be optimistic! Lots of things in life are hard, and it's important we learn to be positive during difficult times. Fostering a sense of optimism allows kids to push beyond what they thought possible, like biking without training wheels or reading above their grade level."

Here are a few mantras to keep in mind this school year:

Quality learning matters more than quantifying learning

After focusing on standardized measures of academic success for so long, the learning environment this next school year may involve more independent, remote learning. Some parents are considering this an exciting opportunity for their children to assume a bigger role in what they are learning—and parents are also getting on board by supporting their children's education with engaging, positive learning materials like Highlights Magazine.

As a working mom, Garg also appreciates that Highlights Magazine can help engage her son while she's also working. She says, "He sits next to me and solves puzzles in the magazine or practices his writing from the workbook."

Keep an open mind as "school" looks different

Whether children are of preschool age or in the midst of high school, "going to school" is bound to look different this year. Naturally, this may require some adjustment as kids become accustomed to new guidelines. Although many parents may wish to shelter our kids from challenges, others believe optimism can be fostered through adversity when everyone is committed to adapting to new experiences.

"Honestly, I am yet to figure out when I will be comfortable sending [my son] back [to school]," says Garg. In the meantime, she's helping her son remain connected with friends who also read Highlights Magazine by encouraging the kids to talk about what they are learning on video calls.

Follow children's cues about what interests them

For Garg, her biggest hope for this school year is that her son will create "success" for himself by embracing new learning possibilities with positivity.

"Encouraging my son to try new things has given him a chance to prove that he can do anything," she says. "He takes his previous success as an example now and feels he can fail multiple times before he succeeds."

There's no denying that this school year will be far from the norm. But, perhaps, we can create a new, better way of defining our children's success in school because of it.

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