Mindy Kaling’s new mom anxiety is so relatable: ‘I never understood how much I would worry’

New motherhood is this wild combination of worry and happiness. On one hand, you feel this incredible, intense love for your baby. Every little thing they do lights up your world. But on the other, you’re this big ball of anxiety, scared of every move you make as a mom. Am I holding her the right way? Am I feeding him the right things? How will our relationship be when they get older?

Let’s be honest: Motherhood is a lot to process.

Just ask writer and actress Mindy Kaling, who gave birth to her first child, daughter Katherine Swati, on Dec. 15, 2017. Kaling hasn’t shared any photos of Katherine since welcoming her little one to the world, and there’s good reason for that: She told TODAY she’s “such a worrier” and “far too fragile” to expose her daughter to the public. The idea gives her anxiety, and while worrying about paparazzi baby pictures isn’t something most moms can relate to, maternal anxiety totally is.


“I knew how much I would love her and love the experience of being with her. I never understood how much I would worry and how much that worry is unceasing,” she told TODAY.

“Happiness for me, now, is just a feeling of relief,” she continues. “I’m in a constant state of worry but I’m enjoying it too. I hope she’s developing correctly — I’m anxious constantly. I’m hoping that will change a little bit. I haven’t even thought about when she’s bigger.”

We feel you, Mindy. It’s hard not to worry as a new mom. After all, there are so many thoughts that can trigger anxiety, especially if you’re a worrier by nature. But there are ways to face maternal anxiety head on.

There are a few truths you should keep in mind whenever anxious thoughts creep into your head.

1. There is no single right way to do things.

Motherhood doesn’t come with an instruction manual. If your baby is happy and healthy, then you are doing things just fine.

2. Trust yourself.

They may be your first baby, but they are your baby.

3. You are doing a great job and you’re doing things right.

You love your baby unconditionally and want them to have the best in the world. That makes you a great mama already.

4. Avoid comparisons.

Comparisons can fuel anxiety for some parents. Measuring yourself against other moms or comparing your baby’s milestones to another child’s isn’t productive, because your motherhood journey is about you and your baby, no one else.

Remember, though, if you find that the worry is taking over, ask for help. Reaching out to your support system, and talking to your doctor or a therapist can help you manage your anxiety. You don’t have to live in a constant state of worry, and it does get easier, mama.

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These are only the vitamins I give my children and here's why

It's hard to say who loves these more—my kids or me.

When I became a mama five years ago, I didn't put too much thought into whether my son was getting the right vitamins and minerals. From breastfeeding to steaming and pureeing his first bites of solid food, I was confident I was giving him everything to support his growth and development.

But then the toddler years—and the suddenly picky palate that accompanied them—came along. Between that challenge and two additional children in the mix… well, I knew my oldest son's eating plan was falling short in some vitamin and mineral categories.

I also knew how quickly he was growing, so I wanted to make sure he was getting the nutrients he needed (even on those days when he said "no, thank you" to any veggie I offered).

So when I discovered the new line of children's supplements from Nature's Way®, it felt like a serious weight off my chest. Thanks to supplements that support my children's musculoskeletal growth, their brain function, their immune systems, their eyes and more, I'm taken back to that simpler time when I was so confident my kids' vitamin needs were met.*

It wasn't just the variety of supplements offered by Nature's Way that won me over: As a vegetarian mama, I'm the picky one in the family when it comes to scanning labels and making sure they meet our standards. The trick is that most gummy vitamins are made with gelatin, which is not vegetarian friendly.

But just like the other offerings from Nature's Way that I've already come to know and love, the children's supplement line is held to a high standard. That means there's no high-fructose corn syrup, gelatin or common allergens to be found in the supplements. The best part? My two oldest kids ensure we never miss their daily vitamins—they are so in love with the gummy flavors, which include tropical fruit punch, lemonade and wild berry.

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Meanwhile, my pharmacist husband has different criteria when evaluating supplements, especially when it comes to those for our kids. He appreciates the variety of options from Nature's Way, which gives us the ability to rotate the vitamins based on our kids' daily needs. By keeping various children's supplements from Nature's Way on hand, I can customize a regimen to suit my kids' individual requirements.

Of course, high-quality products often come at a higher price point. But (to my immense gratitude!) that isn't the case with Nature's Way, which retails for a competitive value when compared to the other items on the shelf.

Like all mamas, my chief concern is supporting my children's health in any way I can. While I see evidence of their growth every time I pack away clothes they've outgrown, I know there is much more growth that doesn't meet the eye. That's why, for my oldest son, I like stacking the Brain Builder gummy with the Growing Bones & Muscles gummy and the Happy & Healthy Multi. My 3-year-old also enjoys getting her own mix to include the Healthy Eyes gummy. And both of my older kids are quick to request the Tummy Soothe tablet when something isn't sitting right in their stomachs.* And I'll admit it: I've tried it myself and the berry blast flavor really is tasty!

Although my current phase of motherhood may not be as "simple" as it once was, there is so much to appreciate about it—like watching my kids play and sing and create with their incredible imaginations. Along the way, I've eased up on some of my need for control, but it does help to have this range of supplements in my motherhood tool kit. So while I may not be able to convince my son to try kale, having the Nature's Way supplements on hand means I do know he's right on track.*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

This article was sponsored by Nature's Way. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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