I just feel like this is my civic duty to post and tell whoever's out there right now crying that you aren't alone, that you are normal and that it's going to be alright.
It's not simply overwhelming that parenting standards have risen dramatically while support systems have vanished, it's an unfair setup that has mothers thinking their personal inadequacies are to blame for what is actually the fault of a broken system and distortions of reality.
This week, we're in New York City reflecting on our growth from the past year and celebrating what's to come.
She gets it.
This is a picture of me mid-meltdown during my second week as a mom of two. I just got done breastfeeding for what felt like the 100th time and my husband had just entered the room asking if I needed anything, and I said no. When he walked out, I just broke down. Because there were SO many things I needed.
"There's no trophy"
The Life After Birth project is changing the way we look at and talk about postpartum bodies.
I realized that, for better or worse, joking about being a wine mom is a palatable code for saying "this is hard." That feeling is one just about every parent experiences, often on a daily basis—but it can still be hard to admit, lest we be accused of not appreciating motherhood enough.
Parents need help, and we need to take back the definition of what makes a "good" parent.
You never know what someone else is going through.
3. Because skipping sleep doesn't make more time.
I wondered how my house looked like a war zone when my home growing up was always magazine-ready.
I still have times when I get caught up in the frenzy of motherhood and put my needs on the back burner for weeks, or even months, at a time. But then I remember my life-changing revelation and I schedule a babysitter and give myself a couple of hours to get back on track.
Giving unsolicited advice is just one parent's attempt to help another parent avoid the challenges they went through.
My day-to-day is filled with micro failures that prevent me from achieving any semblance of "best mom ever" status.
Spoiler: It does and it doesn't.
These three little words really help. ❤️
3. Saying no doesn't have to be hard.
"We feel like our best like selves when we're actually taking care of our mental health. And you know that's style for me," shares Yvette.
I see that your child also has 5+ bows in their hair and a layer of leggings, shorts and a skirt on.