If your fertility treatments have been canceled due to coronavirus—I see you

All you can do is what is within your control right now. It's all any of us can do. But that doesn't make it any easier, I know.

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You would be hard-pressed to find anyone whose life hasn't been affected by the coronavirus outbreak. People are losing their jobs. Doctors and nurses are putting their own lives at risk to work on the front lines. Parents are expected to work from home while homeschooling their own children.

There have been many articles circulating the Internet with tips and tricks for being stuck at home with kids during a pandemic. There are free online childbirth courses being offered for pregnant women. There are memes going around about a coronavirus baby boom coming in nine months.

But what about those who desperately want to become parents and have to rely on assisted reproductive technologies such as IVF in order to do so?

According to, 1 in 8 couples have trouble getting pregnant or sustaining a pregnancy. Many of those couples choose to undergo fertility treatments in hopes of starting, or in many cases, growing their families. However, due to the ongoing health crisis, The American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) recently issued new guidance for its members as they manage patients in the midst of the pandemic. And let's just say the recommendations are not ideal for those hoping to get pregnant sooner rather than later.

The ASRM is now urging healthcare providers to suspend the initiation of all new treatment cycles, including ovulation induction, intrauterine inseminations (IUIs), in vitro fertilization (IVF), and non-urgent gamete cryopreservation (egg freezing), and to consider the cancellation of all embryo transfers, whether fresh or frozen.

They are advising Reproductive Endocrinologists to continue to care for patients who are currently 'in-cycle' or who require urgent stimulation and cryopreservation, but to suspend elective surgeries and non-urgent diagnostic procedures. They are also encouraging doctor's offices to minimize in-person interactions and increase the utilization of telehealth.

While these guidelines are undoubtedly in the best interest of the patients, as well as the doctors and nurses who treat them, this also means that many couples are being given no other choice than to put their family-planning goals on hold for the foreseeable future. And as anyone who has been through infertility knows, this kind of news can be completely devastating to someone who already feels like their fertility journey has been one big waiting game.

In my own experience, when undergoing fertility treatments, each month starts with a renewed sense of hope. You think to yourself, Maybe this will be the month that I finally see those two pink lines. You take hormones, give yourself injections and have seemingly endless amounts of doctor's appointments and blood draws. If that ends in a negative pregnancy test, all of the hope that was there at the beginning comes crashing down, only to have to do it all over again the following month. This process takes a toll on you, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally as well.

Infertility can be all-consuming. That's why when others say, "Just relax and it will happen," that isn't very helpful. Waiting "just a few more months" can feel like a lifetime to someone who has already been waiting too long.

So, to all of those who were about to start an IUI or IVF cycle after years of trying to conceive only to have it be postponed, I see you. To all those who were awaiting surgery in hopes of getting to the bottom of their infertility diagnosis, I see you.

You have every right to be frustrated that your plans have been put on hold yet again.

You have every right to be upset, and even angry, that you can't use this extra time at home to "just have sex and get pregnant" like everybody else.

You're allowed to feel all of your feelings during this time.

But when you do pick yourself back up—and you will—try to think of this as a physical and mental break from the usual demands of fertility treatments. A break from the injections, the hormones, the doctor's appointments, the acupuncture sessions, the demanding schedules and the commute to and from work. Use this time to do all of the things you enjoyed before infertility took over your life.

Find yourself again.

Start a new workout regimen, read a book, meditate. Tell yourself you are capable—of getting pregnant, of staying pregnant, of being stronger than you think, of doing hard things—and keep saying it until you believe it wholeheartedly. Put yourself in the best possible mindset for starting again when all of this is over, because it will be over, eventually.

And you will have your chance, I promise. All you can do is what is within your control right now. It's all any of us can do. But that doesn't make it any easier, I know.

You've got this. And if you need extra support, check out the amazing community over at The Fertility Tribe where you will find real stories from real women who are also 1 in 8.

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Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

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