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A letter to my baby when the world seems scary

It is daunting to bring a little human heart into this world, knowing all this world can contain.

A letter to my baby when the world seems scary

Oh my sweet, sweet baby girl -

I sometimes pretend that life will always be this way. I’ll always be able to snuggle you right before work and as soon as I come home. I’ll always pick out adorable outfits for you, always be able to hold you close when I wear you in large crowds. Always get to put you to bed and go to my own, assured of your safety and well being. I’ll always be there when you are scared.


I sometimes forget that you will one day grow into a little girl, a teenager, an adult. That one day, I’ll trade my worries of when you’ll grow teeth to when you’ll come home. I forget that one day, you won’t reach for me or your daddy anymore. You’ll reach for your phone, your friends, your boyfriend—someone other than us. In all the innocence that found in the celebration of you discovering how to laugh, how to crawl, how to clap, I forget.

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I forget that one day, you’ll be able to comprehend the world we live in and you’ll ask me. You’ll ask me why some hate others for their skin tone, religion, political stance, sexual orientation, gender. You’ll ask me why some children live with just their mommy or just their daddy. Why some come to school hungry. You’ll hear about bullies and pain. Poverty and conflict. Rape and terrorism. Death and dying.

And I, with all the tenderness and bravery and conviction I can muster, have to somehow explain to you the deep, dark, terrible things about this world. That they are real. That they exist.

I never want you to know any of it. But, I would be a terrible mama if I didn’t step into it with you. Tell you. Explain how, if we aren’t careful, our differences with others can lead to fear. If we aren’t careful, our fear can lead to hatred, and hatred can lead to unspeakable things.

Or explain to you how it’s easier to find those who are like you and group together—in order to find safety, community, friendship, love. Seeking these things isn’t bad. But when we build walls around our own groups and call everyone else an outsider, call them wrong because they aren’t like us—it becomes devastating.

My darling girl, I want you to remember something: No matter one’s color, creed, or lifestyle, we all want to go home at night. Remember that everybody is somebody’s baby.

I pause at the enormous task I was given when I became your mama. It is hard to hear the headlines of my city, my country, and my world, knowing that you live here, too. It’s enough to make my heart heavy and wonder how to raise a child in this broken world. Because your safety and well-being are some of the main drivers of my life, I’m so tempted to tell you to hide. To live in the safe neighborhood. To find your own group.

Because the world can be scary and overwhelming and what do we do with the pieces of sky that fall down upon us, our families, our communities, our country, our world?

We start at home. Holding up the sky starts at home.

My job doesn’t stop at telling you about all the sadness this world contains—for which I am so very thankful. The rest of my job—the hopeful yet harder work—is to point you to all the power you possess to ease the burdens of this world. Your world.

You may or may not grow up to lead and move a city or a nation, but you will always have the opportunity to move the heart of the human next to you.

I want to teach you love, grace, compassion, kindness, forgiveness—and maybe most importantly, that all of those things are powerful. More powerful than any method of destruction, because they build up. It’s so, so easy to tear down—tear down with words, with bullying, with guns, with bombs, with violence.

It is a much more grander, more powerful, more difficult thing to build up than to tear down.

You’ll be tempted to do the opposite because it’s easier. To fight back in kind, to withhold forgiveness, to run and hide. Sometimes you will resort to the default of what’s easiest.

But if I could sum up the example I want to model for you and help you live out, it is that you choose the better thing more often than not. That you’ll forgive instead of hold a grudge. That you’ll seek to understand instead of seek to prove a point. That you’ll be curious and celebrate differences instead of resist them.

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The better thing is usually not the easiest thing. It may make you afraid sometimes. It takes practice choosing the better thing because it won’t always come natural to you.

But when we know and are guided by the truth that every single boy, girl, man, and woman has inherent dignity and intrinsic worth, it makes so much easier to choose the things that build up, rather than tear down. Not just easier—it becomes necessary. Crucial. Life-changing and world-changing.

I promise to hold and hug you when the world seems scary. And I promise to show you how to be brave in the face of it. I promise that your daddy and I will do all we can to build you up so you can build up the world around you.

Because there’s another thing every human heart wants—and it’s to be a part of something bigger. When we practice the things that build up those around us, we are building something bigger than ourselves, something we all want to be a part of.

Little baby girl, I pause at this task because it is great. It is daunting to bring a little human heart into this world, knowing all this world can contain.

But I’ll choose the better thing for you, my darling. I’ll choose to practice hope in the face of it‚—that I’m building you up and sending you out to make a difference in it.

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

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For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.

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Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!

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Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.

$29.99

Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌

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Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.

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Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.

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Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.

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Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.

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