Dear husband, you’re working hard, too—I see you

Sometimes I forget to tell you I see all that you do, and how much I love you for it.

Dear husband, you’re working hard, too—I see you

Dear Husband,

This amazing, full and busy life we are building together can be so demanding, in so many ways. And each of us sacrifices so much to make it work. Yes, I wake up early to manage kids to school every morning, and then all things home for the day, but I see the weight you carry, too.

Sometimes I forget to tell you that I see you.

I may have the mental load of home, but you have the burden of work that takes you away from us, then deposits you back here, just as tired as I am.

We have the same end goals, but along the way, when having it all tips the scales and we find ourselves depleted, it is far too easy to fall into the "who is doing more work" game, where no one ever actually wins. It really isn't a contest.

There are times that I wallow in the weariness of my everyday tasks, which seem to vary little, but which always amount to a sea of work that sometimes drowns me.

I wait for you to get home so I can unload the burden of my stress, expecting you to throw me a lifeline and rescue me from my fatigue. These are the days I forget that you are working hard, too, and to tell you I appreciate the things you do to try to buoy me, just to make things a little better. But, I see you.

I see you work hard to understand what I might need, whatever it may be, even if it is just an extra kiss, an embrace, or a special bottle of wine.

I see you commuting for your job so we can live where we do, and do what we do. Up at 4:00 am and out the door at 5:00 to catch your flight at 6:00 just so you can land in time for meetings all day—only to do it all in reverse to get home in time to make little league and volleyball games. On the other days, I see you execute a gritty city commute, without complaint, to do the same thing.

I see you picking up milk and eggs and bread and butter on the way home, and going back for the tomatoes because we may or may not have them, but extra can't hurt, and you don't want me to run out to the store again if you can help it.

I see you come home at night so tired, but not too tired to play a round of ping-pong, to pitch or catch, fix a bike, read a book, draw a bath, help with homework, and to patiently listen to each one's day. I see you reach deep inside to find exactly the right words to guide them and help them stay the course.

I see you staying up after the kids are in bed to finish the work you put on hold so you could get home to us in time for dinner.

I see you doing dishes after working all day because you know I won't get to it until later, and that means I won't get to bed until later. And then I see you when you quietly empty the dishwasher in the very early morning before you leave for work, so I don't have to.

I see you reading that extra book or playing just one more round of go-fish, even when the big game is on.

I see you getting up early enough on a weekend to make sure the kids have all the sports equipment they need—and that it fits—and then running out to get their new gear before tip-off.

I see you hanging the darn Christmas lights, inside and out.

Though these seem like little things, they add up to a mountain of love in the care and keeping of us. Your hard work makes the difference between us standing still and moving forward in working towards our goals.

And you work hard at the big things, too.

I see you working hard at us. I see the quiet caretaking and painstaking effort to ensure that we are always growing together as our lives change and our children get older, transforming our relationship.

It takes patience and time and energy after a long day. It takes humility and listening and understanding.

This is big.

It's hard work to put aside agendas and defenses and just be bare and open to hearing what needs to be heard, no matter how sharp or heavy or searing it may be—and then still work, still patiently explain, express, wait.

This is hard work, on top of hard work, and I see you. And I am so grateful.

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


Watch one mama's review of the new Dr. Brown's breastfeeding line here:

This article was sponsored by Dr. Brown's. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Comforts Baby Lotion

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