Dear society—you only see me as a mom, but I’m so much more

We’re here. We are still ‘us’ inside. ?

Dear society—you only see me as a mom, but I’m so much more

When we go to social functions, the conversations I’m in usually revolve around my pregnancy or my daughters. And maybe it’s because of my current raging pregnancy hormones (currently 35 weeks pregnant!), but... I do get annoyed. I mean, these are not the same conversations my husband is engaged in. So it can be a little frustrating.

I get annoyed, whether anyone realizes or cares, because I am more than “just” a mother. I get annoyed, even though I know people don’t mean any harm by these types of conversations. But I am more than a woman carrying life inside her.


Actually, I am so much more.

I want people to recognize that and ask me about other things too.

I adore being a mom and I do love talking about pregnancy and motherhood. I love it so much that I have chosen a job that revolves around it.

But when I’m outside of our home—our home, which doubles as the space where I am physically living out the mom life as well as writing and editing and working the mom life—I want to be able to talk about and experience these other areas of life that are meaningful to me too.

Even though I am a mother now, I am still a person.

I am a mother and a wife.

I am a mother and a daughter.

I am a mother and a sister.

I am a mother and a friend.

I am a mother and a writer.

I am a mother and an employee.

I am a mother and an avid book reader.

I am a mother and an equal rights supporter.

I am a mother and a feminist.

I am a mother and a Celtics fan.

I am a mother and a member of the Beyhive.

I am a mother and a music lover.

I am a mother and a beach goer.

I am a mother and a woman who likes to cook (and eat!) and who has a love/hate relationship with working out.

I am a mother and a woman who still sings every word of ‘Shoop’ when it comes on the radio.

I am a mother and a woman who loves to travel and go to the movies. (Oh, and I’ll never pass up popcorn at the movies.)

I am a mother and a woman who enjoys a good hike, a trip to the lake, and fishing with my husband.

I am a mother and a woman who likes a nice glass of Cabernet or a really cold Tuckerman pale ale and thinks it tastes even better among laughter with friends.

I am a mother and a woman who loves to binge watch great TV shows, enjoys celebrity news, and likes to update her Instagram story throughout the day.

I am a mother and a woman who often can’t decide between Ben & Jerry’s Cherry Garcia or Salted Caramel Core.

I am a mother and a woman who (for the life of me) cannot grasp the concept of curling my own hair, who loves a good red lip, and basically only knows how to do one “makeup look” despite having three very makeup-savvy sisters.

I am a mother and a woman who stays up too late, does not have a strong concept of time, and takes long showers.

I am a mother and a woman who adores Amy Poehler and wishes she could be friends with Donna Meagle from Parks & Rec in real life.

When we are pregnant and when we become mothers—it’s almost as if society decides that what matters most, always, is that we have children to take care of.

We experience a shift in our identity within ourselves and within the outside world, too.

This shift within ourselves, where we’re adjusting to the role of mother, is hard enough to do on our own, and it takes time. New motherhood can be overwhelming and all-consuming—we can sometimes feel like we’re losing ourselves in it.

Eventually we find our footing again and we come back to ourselves (or a slightly revamped, more awesome version), but somehow society doesn’t.

They still often see us as mothers first, then women.

It’s as if we become invisible because we’re hard to notice behind these cute babies we make.

But, we’re here. We are still ‘us’ inside.

We still have interests and hobbies and jobs and friendships and passions and dreams and goals—some that have absolutely nothing to do with our families and/or the fact that we’re mothers.

We just want you to peer behind the cute baby that’s in front of your face and recognize that. That’s all. Deal?

I mean, we know they’re cute, but so are we. Plus, we want to talk about what just happened on Game of Thrones. So come on, let’s chat.

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A crib that can grow through childhood + beyond

Simmons Kids Slumbertime Monterey 4-in-1 Convertible Crib

A crib is a necessity as you plan for life with your baby—you know that already. But what about in a couple of years when they need a toddler bed? Or a few years beyond that when they graduate to a bigger bed? Well, you're in luck: With the right attachments, this bed can be the only one they need until college.


A cozy blanket for snuggles + security

Plush Velboa Baby Blanket I Love You - Cloud Island\u2122 White/Black

Blankets have earned their spot on millions upon millions of registries for good reason: They function as stroller covers or play mats during the early days, then become beloved security items in the toddler years.


A comfy spot for feeding + stories

Baby Relax Addison Swivel Gliding Recliner

During your first months of motherhood, a comfortable gliding chair will be your second home as you spend time feeding and bonding. As your child grows (and mobility makes those snuggles harder to catch), you'll discover a new love for this cozy spot for stories and bedtime snuggles.


Sealy Cozy Rest Extra Firm Crib and Toddler Mattress

Fun fact: A standard crib and toddler bed actually use the same size mattress. That's why it's smart to get a quality crib mattress right out of the gate: One less thing to change up in a few years!


A changing table that doubles as a dresser

Simmons\u00ae Kids Monterey 4 Drawer Dresser with change top

If space is at a premium in your baby's nursery, look for a combination changing table and dresser. That way, you can keep using the dresser long after your little one is potty trained.


A car seat that converts to a booster

Safety 1st Grow and Go 3-in-1 Convertible Car Seat

The safest place for your child is in the backseat of your car, in either a car seat or (later) booster. But instead of buying a new seat for each phase, you can check off multiple boxes at once by adding a convertible car seat to your registry.


A stroller that accommodates big kids, too

Graco FastAction Jogger LX Stroller

The need for a good stroller doesn't end when your little one learns to walk, so look for a stroller that can accommodate bigger kids, too. We recommend a jogging stroller that allows you to attach an infant car seat and is still perfectly spacious for toddlers.


A place to dine for years to come

Ingenuity SmartClean Trio Elite 3-in-1 High Chair - Slate

From first bites to family dinners around the table, one single high chair can be the solution you need. That is, if you look for a version that adapts into a booster seat when your child is ready for a plate at the table.


A white noise machine + alarm clock in one

Hatch Rest Sound Machine, Night Light & Time-to-Rise

After spending months listening to ambient noise in the womb, white noise remains incredibly comforting for your child. It's nice to have a sound machine that can transition to a time-to-rise clock down the line. By cueing with sounds and colors, these clocks reinforce healthy sleep habits.


A baby carrier that can haul a toddler, too

Infantino Flip 4-in-1 Convertible Carrier

A carrier is a major help when your baby loves being held, but you need use of your hands. But even months or years down the line, you can still get use out of that carrier. To maximize longevity, look for one that can be used with your child facing outward or even carried on your back as they grow.


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This article was sponsored by Target. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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