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So you're ready to have a baby. Let's take a moment and think about the awesomeness of that! We are so excited to be here with you along your journey.

Here are the 7 steps to getting pregnant fast:


1. Get prepped for pregnancy.

  • Make an appointment with your doctor and discuss your overall health as it relates to getting pregnant.
  • Start taking a prenatal vitamin with folic acid to help prevent spinal tube defects in your baby (taking it prior to getting pregnant makes it more effective).
  • Stop taking birth control. Check out our guide to getting pregnant to learn more.

2. Decide: Wing it, or plan it?

Do you want to take more of a “let's see what happens" approach to getting pregnant, or would you feel better charting and strategizing? Either is fine! And know that you can change your mind as you go.

If you decide to have a conception plan, then understanding your cycle is key.

3. Understand the menstrual cycle.

Your fertile window is five to six days long, typically in the middle of your cycle.

On average, a woman with a 28-day cycle will ovulate on day 14. But you are so not average! So charting your cycle is key to identifying your unique fertile days.

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Once an egg is released from your ovary, it will survive for 12 to 24 hours. That means that it must meet the sperm within that window in order for it to become fertilized. The good news is that healthy sperm survives in your body for up to five days.

The trick is making sure that the sperm and the egg are alive and well in your body at the same time.

This is why knowing when you ovulate is so important.

Say you ovulate on Wednesday at midnight. Having sex anytime on Wednesday means that the sperm is potentially going to meet the egg during that 12- to 24-hour window. But if you had sex on Tuesday (or Monday, or maybe even Sunday or Saturday), the sperm may still be alive and waiting for the egg when it's released. So if you are anticipating ovulation within a few days, having sex will increase the chances of having living sperm ready to fertilize your egg.

4. Use apps + tests to identify your most fertile time.

Ovulation strips (like these). Just pee on the strip. If the test line is as dark or darker than the control, you are likely fertile.

Fertility monitors (like Clearblue Fertility Monitor). Pee on a stick, insert it into the machine, and it will tell you when your fertility is low, high and peak.

Apps (like Glow and Kindara). They allow you to track your period, ovulation signs and tests, intercourse and even your sleep to help you determine your most fertile windows.

Wearable devices (like Ava). When you wear it on your wrist overnight, this device detects changes in your body that indicate approaching ovulation.

5. Read your body's signs.

Some women feel most comfortable paying attention to the physical signs their bodies show them:

Cervical mucus

Cervical mucus is the normal vaginal discharge that changes as you progress through your cycle. It will go from nonexistent or dry to sticky, then creamy, and then wet, and then finally it will be the consistency of egg whites. That egg-white consistency means it's fertile cervical mucus and indicates that you are about to ovulate. It's the most sperm friendly, because they can easily swim through it up to the uterus.

Side note: If you use lubrication during sex, choose lubricants that are sperm friendly, like Pre-Seed. Other ones can actually hurt sperm.

Drop in basal body temperature

If you're taking your temperature every day to chart your cycle using a fertility app or chart, you'll notice that just before you ovulate, you may see a slight drop in your basal body temperature, followed by an increase.

Cervical position

If you're up for doing your own vaginal exam, you might note that your cervix is softer, higher and more open around the time of ovulation.

You may also experience pain/cramping, breast tenderness, spotting and an increased interest in sex.

6. Have sex.

If you're not tracking ovulation, simply have sex every other day all month long.

If you are tracking ovulation, and your partner has an average or high sperm count, you can have sex every day in your fertile window. If he has a low sperm count, have sex every other day in order boost the sperm concentration in the ejaculate.

Sperm is healthiest when men ejaculate every two to three days, so encourage your guy not to wait too many days between orgasms. (Lucky guy.)

7. Have fun!

Trying to conceive can become a bit stressful, so make sure you're taking care of yourself and each other as a couple. Don't force yourself to do anything that doesn't feel right. And try to enjoy this process.

Good luck out there, mama.

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Back when my husband and I were creating our wedding registry, it was a fun, low-pressure opportunity to select some new dishes and linens. After all, I knew a thing or two about stocking my home and making the "wrong decision" with thread count was the only thing that posed any risk to my sleep at night.

Fast-forward a few years to when I created a baby registry before the birth of my first child—and I found the experience to have a much steeper learning curve. Unlike those sheets, it felt like a bad swaddle or bassinet selection would be catastrophic. Unsure of what to expect from motherhood or my baby, I leaned heavily on advice from friends who already ventured into parenthood. (Starting with their reminders to take deep breaths!)

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Now a mom of three little ones under the age of four, I'm happy to be in a position to pass along some baby registry wisdom.

Go shopping with a veteran parent

As first-time parents, my husband and I barely knew the difference between a bouncer and a swing, let alone what specific features we would want. So when a mom friend recommended we head to Walmart to build my registry together—because she found them to carry the trendy brands she loved AND make registering a breeze during her pregnancy—I leapt at the chance.

By walking through the aisles together and actually getting to see the products, I was much more confident in my registry selections. Thanks to that quick, in-store tutorial from my friend, I understood exactly how to match a perfect infant car seat with an extra base and stroller—which is something I would have been clueless about on my own.

Include items at a variety of price points

When it comes down to it, a registry is really a wish list. So, while I had a personal budget for a stroller if it had to come out of my own pocket, this was an opportunity for me to ask for the stroller of my dreams. And, wouldn't you know it? A few family members went in on it together, which made a bigger price tag much more manageable.

At the same time, it's nice to include some of the smaller ticket items that are absolutely essential. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I was to skip buying my own diapers for those first few weeks. (With super cute patterns, these are also surprisingly fun to give, too!)

Think about the gifts you would like to give

The first time I bought a mom-to-be a gift after my own child was born, I knew immediately what to look for on her registry: a diaper bag backpack, which I had come to have very strong opinions about after battling falling straps with my first diaper bag. This allowed me to feel like I had a personal touch in my gift, even if I brought one pre-selected by her.

I also appreciate it when my friends clearly incorporate their style into their registry choices, like with adorable baby outfits or nursery decor—and there's no sweeter "thank you" than a picture from a friend showing your gift in use.

Ask for things to grow with your child

Even though it's called a baby registry, there's no need to limit yourself to gifts to use before their first birthday. (To this day, I still have people who attended my baby shower to thank for the convertible bed that my oldest child sleeps in!) Knowing that, I would have included more options with long lifespans into my registry—namely, a baby carrier that can be used during the newborn months, baby months and well into the toddler years. A well-designed baby carrier would have saved my back from serious pain because it would have allowed me to comfortably and ergonomically carry my toddler as she made her way into the 25lb+ club. One brand that's designed to grow with your baby and accommodates 7-45 pounds (up to about four years old) and offers both inward and forward-facing positions is Ergobaby. With several different design and style options, you can easily find one that caters to your parenting needs. From an all-in-one carrier, like the Omni 360, that grows with baby from the newborn stages into the toddler years or a newborn-specific carrier, like the Embrace (and don't worry you can later upgrade to a carrier for an older baby, I recommend the 360 Carrier). The best part? All ergonomic designs are supportive and comfortable for both baby and parent, offering extra lumbar support with breathable, lightweight mesh styles. Everyone (even grandparents!) can get a kick out of babywearing, which is a nice and welcomed break for parents. Having one of these on my registry would have certainly made those first few years so much easier.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.

This article was sponsored by Ergobaby. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.


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