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Why I don't post photos of my child on social media

I have no idea if she will be disappointed when she's a teenager and learns she doesn't have a million followers because I failed to make her an Instagram account when she was a baby.

Why I don't post photos of my child on social media

Whether I live next to you or across the country, social media makes it easy for us to stay updated on each other's lives and that's a wonderful thing. I love seeing pictures of your kids and I think it's great that you choose to share videos of your child singing, giggling and taking his or her first steps.

I simply choose not to share pregnant pictures, or even a family photo from the hospital once our daughter arrived because my pregnancy, birth and growing family are parts of my life I wanted to protect from the outside world.


People often ask me why I don't share pictures of my daughter online now that she's older and my answer is twofold: We live in a world where people can learn a lot about you in a short amount of time and I don't need people knowing where my family is 24 hours a day. I also want to respect my daughter's privacy. She's not old enough to tell me if she's okay with me sharing her life with the world or old enough to understand what that even means.

At 16 months old, my daughter loves books, playing with her toys and puzzles, helping me vacuum, throwing perfectly folded clothing out of her drawers, anything that involves bubbles, climbing on anything and everything and music. She does something clever or entertaining every five minutes. Sure, I would love to share those things with my social network.

But I don't know who my kid is yet.

I have no idea if she will be disappointed when she's a teenager and learns she doesn't have a million followers because I failed to make her an Instagram account when she was a baby or if she will be thrilled to find out that there are no bathtub photos, tantrum photos or anything else she might find embarrassing on my feed or anyone else's for that matter.

Shying away from social media has made for some awkward moments. For example, when my daughter was a baby, we joined two different "mommy and me" classes. In the first, the facilitator encouraged everyone to take pictures during the class and tag the program. In the second group, the teacher had more of an offline approach but all of the moms wanted to take a picture of all of the kids on the first day.

I politely removed my daughter from the circle before they all started snapping, videoing, tagging and posting, and got some eye-rolls as a result. The following week, when the moms assembled the babies again for another picture, we scooted out a little early to avoid having to answer any more questions on the topic.

I have found some moms take what you do and connect your actions with what they are doing; however, just because I don't post anything of my family on Facebook, doesn't mean I think it's wrong that you do.

Will I take a picture of my kid when she starts school? Of course! Will I share that picture on my feed with the name of the school, her grade and teacher's name? No. Whenever I've been in an environment when someone has taken a group picture my daughter happens to be in, say at a birthday party, I haven't asked anyone to not post pictures of our kids. I have gently reminded them not to tag my husband or me and found most people understand our point of view.

I can't protect my child from everything, but I can treat her with respect and support her choices. When she's old enough to have a phone, or whatever device we're all using in 13 years, I'll be more than happy to airdrop all of the photos we've taken and I'm sure I'll be the first to like all of them if or when the time comes.

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But it can also feel a bit overwhelming to make sense of all the gear on the market. That's why we suggest mentally dividing your registry into two categories: items you need to prepare for your baby's arrival and items that sure would be nice to have.

Here at Motherly, our editors have dozens of kids and years of parenting experience among us, so we know our way around the essentials. We also know how mama-friendly the registry-building experience is with Target, especially thanks to their recently upgraded registry and introduction of Year of Benefits. Just by creating your baby registry with Target, you'll snag a kit with $120 in discounts and samples. The savings keep coming: You'll also get two 15% off coupons to buy unpurchased items from your registry for up to a year after your baby's expected arrival. Change your mind about anything? The Year of Benefits allows for returns or exchanges for a full year. And as of August 2020, those who also sign up for Target Circle when creating a baby registry will also get the retailer's Year of Exclusive Deals, which includes ongoing discounts on baby essentials for a full year.

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Safety 1st OnBoard 35 LT Infant Car Seat

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Baby Trend Lil Snooze Deluxe II Nursery Center

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An easy-to-clean high chair

Ingenuity SmartClean Trio Elite 3-in-1 High Chair - Slate

Our best registry advice? Think ahead. It really won't be long before your child is ready for those first bites of solid food, at which point you'll need a high chair. We like one that transitions to a booster seat atop an existing dining room chair.

$99.99

A diaper bag to share

Eddie Bauer Backpack - Gray/Tan

When you're a mom, you're usually toting diapers, wipes, clothing changes, bottles, snacks, toys and more. You need a great bag to stash it all, and if you're anything like us, you'll choose a backpack style for comfort and functionality. Bonus: This gender neutral option can easily be passed off to your partner.

$64.99

A hygienic spot for all those diaper changes

Munchkin Secure Grip Waterproof Diaper Changing Pad 16X31"

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$29.99

A way to keep an eye on your baby at night

Infant Optics Video Baby Monitor DXR-8

Feeling peace of mind while your baby sleeps in another room truly is priceless.That's why we advocate for a quality video monitor that will allow you to keep tabs on your snoozing sweetheart.

$165.99

A comfortable carrier to free up your hands

Petunia Pickle Bottom for Moby Wrap Baby Carrier, Strolling in Salvador

A wrap carrier may be about as low-tech as baby items come, but trust us, this product stands the test of time. Great for use around the house or while running errands, this is one item you'll appreciate so much.

$39.99

A full set of bottles + cleaning supplies

Dr. Brown's Options+ Complete Baby Bottle Gift Set

Whether you plan to work in an office or stay at home, breastfeed or formula feed, bottles are a valuable tool. To make your life as simple as possible, it's nice to have an easy-to-clean set that is designed to work through the first year.

$39.99

Target's baby registry is easy to create from the comfort of your own home. Start your Target baby registry now and enjoy shopping with the Year of Benefits featuring exclusive deals available via Target Circle, two 15% off coupons, a year of hassle-free returns, a free welcome kit and more!

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