It’s science: sending a loving text can help keep your marriage strong

For a relationship to be stable, there must be five positive feelings or actions between partners for every one negative feeling or action, according to researcher John Gottman. Consistently initiating positive interactions makes it more likely that your relationship will survive and even thrive amidst stress, conflict, and challenges.

The good news? One way to do this can be as simple as sending a loving text. A survey by the Pew Research Center found that 21% of cell owners in a committed relationship reported having felt closer to their spouse or partner because of exchanges they had online or via text message.

In another study, researchers found that using text messages to express affection enhances relationships and creates a stronger partner attachment (which is universally associated with relationship satisfaction and stability) for both men and women. Sending a loving text was even more strongly related to relationship satisfaction than receiving one!

Try these five types of text messages to increase the love between you and your partner:


“You’re so great at getting our pack of crazies out the door in the morning. Thanks for getting them to school on time.”

“You’re so hot. I love your smile.”

“You’re so good at your job. I’m so proud of you.”

“This new lasagna you made is ? . You’re such a great cook”

Thank you

Thanks for doing all that laundry last night. I know you were tired.”

“Thanks for holding down the fort while I’m out at my girl’s night. I love you.”

“Thanks for being so organized and signing the kids up for soccer already. You’re the best”

“Thanks for shoveling all. the. snow.”

“That birthday card you gave me made me ?. Thank you honey, it meant a lot to me.”

Fond memory

“I was thinking about our last date night. It was so much fun. Let’s plan another one soon?

“Every time I think about your joke from last night, I can’t stop laughing. You’re so hilarious, babe. ”

“Remember when we ran that 5K? Let’s do it again.”

“I borrowed my mom’s record player so we could listen to music and make out—just like freshman year all over again.

Curious question

“So here’s the question of the day—if you had to pick one state other than the one we’re in now to live for a year, where would it be?”

“If you had to choose one spot that you love the most in this city, what would it be?”

“If you had to write a magazine article right now, what would it be about?”

“What movie would you want to see that’s out right now?”

Sharing a bit of joy

“You should have heard our son reading today—you would not believe how many words he’s learning!”

“I had the best time hiking in the woods with our daughter. We even saw a deer and her face just lit up when it crossed our path.”

“The new customer signed on at work—so excited!”

“Um, the baby wouldn’t stop laughing over me peeling this banana. It was hilarious!”

It may seem simple, but a quick little text really can brighten your loved one’s day. So give it a try, and have fun!

This 'mama' necklace is a bestseller for a powerful reason

There's a lot going on in the world right now, but one thing that's certain? You're still mama.

There's a lot going on in the world right now, but one thing that's certain? You're still mama. No matter what is going on at work, what decision you make about heading back to school, or how you're caring for your family right now, we know you're the best mama for your family.

So in case you need a little reminder of just how incredible you are, we love this sweet necklace from Tiny Tags. And other mamas do, too, because it's been one of our top sellers for weeks.

Whether you're coveting it for yourself or want to gift it to your favorite mama, it's one of those gifts that'll keep on giving years later. It's dainty enough to easily layer with just about anything you have in your jewelry collection, but is just as beautiful as a standalone piece to wear daily. And in these tough seasons, it's honestly a gentle, much-needed reminder that you were made for this. You can do hard things. You are doing the best you can even when it feels like you can't make one more decision.

Tiny Tags script 'mama' necklace

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The charm is 1/2" long and the chain is 16", falling just above most mama's collarbones. All Tiny Tags personalized jewelry is laser engraved by highly skilled artisans to make the most elegant pieces.


And, don't worry, it's totally low-maintenance. Simply polish with a polishing cloth every now and then for extra shine. Now to decide: gold or silver?

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Why do all of my good parenting or baby-focused inventions come after they've already been invented by someone else? Sigh.

Like the Puj hug hooded baby towel, aka the handiest, softest cotton towel ever created.

Safely removing a wet, slippery baby from the bath can be totally nerve-wracking, and trying to hold onto a towel at the same time without soaking it in the process seems to require an extra arm altogether. It's no wonder so much water ends up on the floor, the countertops, or you(!) after bathing your little one. Their splashing and kicking in the water is beyond adorable, of course, but the clean up after? Not as much.

It sounds simple: Wash your child, sing them a song or two, let them play with some toys, then take them out, place a towel around them, and dry them off. Should be easy, peasy, lemon squeezy, right?

But it hasn't been. It's been more—as one of my favorite memes says—difficult, difficult, lemon difficult. Because until this towel hit the bathtime scene, there was no easy-peasy way to pick up your squirming wet baby without drenching yourself and/or everything around you.

Plus, there is nothing cuter than a baby in a plush hooded towel, right? Well, except when it's paired with a dry, mess-free floor, maybe.

Check out our favorites to make bathtime so much easier:

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2. If you could do any part of today over again, what would it be?

After a long day of doing seemingly everything, when our partners get home it kind of becomes a habit to ask, "How was your day?" In between prepping dinner, handing off the kids, finishing your own work, we don't exactly get much value from this question. Sure, it may open up the opportunity to complain about that awful thing that happened or excitedly share that presentation you killed at work—but it usually stops there.

I could do a better job of really talking in my relationship. After 12 years and two kids, sometimes all we can come up with post bedtime routine is, "You good? I'm good. Fire up the Netflix."

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