I saw him across a crowded room. And all I could think was that is a one tall, dark, handsome and nerdy-looking guy. (Totally my type.) I MUST MEET HIM.

We hit it off immediately—and that enchanted evening has turned into 14 years together, eight house moves, three babies and one wonderful life.

Let me be clear: I first locked eyes and zeroed in on my the-man-who-became-my-husband because he was HOT.

As we inched towards marriage, I thought about how funny he was. How much he encouraged me in my professional dreams. How adventurous our life together would be. Those are important things, sure. But in the years since, I've discovered a whole host of reasons to marry that man.


What I should have said to my falling-in-love- and-I-hope-he-proposes self was this.

Marry THIS person—

Marry the person who will eat breakfast outside in December when your morning sickness is so bad that even the sight of food makes you vomit.

Marry the person who won't make your turn off that ridiculous TV show because they know how much you love it.

Marry the person who will drop everything to bring MegaStuff Oreos home to his 8-months-pregnant wife when she texts him: “THIS IS URGENT."

Marry the person who will be mistaken for a doctor when he recites your “station," dilation and blood pressure back to the resident OBGYN when you're about to give birth.

Marry the person who will know exactly how to comfort you during the darkest of times without even saying a word.

Marry the person who will cradle your newborn baby in his arms and make your child looks so tiny, and feel so loved.

Marry the person who will shave your legs when you can't after a C-section.

Marry the person who will tell you that you are a superhero when you need to hear it most.

Marry the person whose Amazon history will include belly butter, granny panties and pumping bras.

Marry the person who will bring coffee—that precious nectar from the gods—to your bedside without being asked after a particularly sleepless night with a newborn.

Marry the person who will endure an incredibly difficult job in order to provide for their family.

Marry the person who will find the sight of you in day-old sweatpants incredibly sexy.

Marry the person who will turn even the most mundane tasks like grocery shopping or decluttering into a fun "date" together.

Marry the person who will know the *exact* subtext when you text, “SOOO when are you getting home?"

Marry the person who will get enraged when they read about sexism—against boys or girls—and vows to transform the world alongside you.

Marry the person who will understands that matching family Christmas pajamas are a NEED, not a want.

Marry the person who will analyze your child's poop patterns, sleep schedule and speech issues with as much intensity as you.

Marry the person who will just KNOW when you need a break and will give you an hour, day or week off, entirely guilt-free.

Marry the person who will tell you, no you're not acting crazy (when, let's be're acting a little crazy.)

Marry the person who will see the adorable, hilarious, incredibly-demanding little person you created together and say: Let's do it again.

Marry the person who will put you and your little family first, above all else.

Marry the person who will not judge the Etsy packages, the Amazon Prime boxes occasional wine delivery that mysteriously shows up on your doorstep.

Marry the person who will beams as big you as do as your kid "dances" across the stage for the first time.

Marry the person who will spend their hard-won Christmas bonus buying a minivan because the swagger wagon is just necessary at this stage of life.

Marry the person who will cheer you on in your career and act as your proudest fan.

Marry the person you know will set the standard in a spouse for your children.

Marry the person who will make the best T-Rex noises playing “DINOSAURS ATTACK" with your three kids downstairs.

Marry the person whose idea of the best life is the exact one you'll be living as parents. MARRY THAT PERSON.

Back when my husband and I were creating our wedding registry, it was a fun, low-pressure opportunity to select some new dishes and linens. After all, I knew a thing or two about stocking my home and making the "wrong decision" with thread count was the only thing that posed any risk to my sleep at night.

Fast-forward a few years to when I created a baby registry before the birth of my first child—and I found the experience to have a much steeper learning curve. Unlike those sheets, it felt like a bad swaddle or bassinet selection would be catastrophic. Unsure of what to expect from motherhood or my baby, I leaned heavily on advice from friends who already ventured into parenthood. (Starting with their reminders to take deep breaths!)


Now a mom of three little ones under the age of four, I'm happy to be in a position to pass along some baby registry wisdom.

Go shopping with a veteran parent

As first-time parents, my husband and I barely knew the difference between a bouncer and a swing, let alone what specific features we would want. So when a mom friend recommended we head to Walmart to build my registry together—because she found them to carry the trendy brands she loved AND make registering a breeze during her pregnancy—I leapt at the chance.

By walking through the aisles together and actually getting to see the products, I was much more confident in my registry selections. Thanks to that quick, in-store tutorial from my friend, I understood exactly how to match a perfect infant car seat with an extra base and stroller—which is something I would have been clueless about on my own.

Include items at a variety of price points

When it comes down to it, a registry is really a wish list. So, while I had a personal budget for a stroller if it had to come out of my own pocket, this was an opportunity for me to ask for the stroller of my dreams. And, wouldn't you know it? A few family members went in on it together, which made a bigger price tag much more manageable.

At the same time, it's nice to include some of the smaller ticket items that are absolutely essential. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I was to skip buying my own diapers for those first few weeks. (With super cute patterns, these are also surprisingly fun to give, too!)

Think about the gifts you would like to give

The first time I bought a mom-to-be a gift after my own child was born, I knew immediately what to look for on her registry: a diaper bag backpack, which I had come to have very strong opinions about after battling falling straps with my first diaper bag. This allowed me to feel like I had a personal touch in my gift, even if I brought one pre-selected by her.

I also appreciate it when my friends clearly incorporate their style into their registry choices, like with adorable baby outfits or nursery decor—and there's no sweeter "thank you" than a picture from a friend showing your gift in use.

Ask for things to grow with your child

Even though it's called a baby registry, there's no need to limit yourself to gifts to use before their first birthday. (To this day, I still have people who attended my baby shower to thank for the convertible bed that my oldest child sleeps in!) Knowing that, I would have included more options with long lifespans into my registry—namely, a baby carrier that can be used during the newborn months, baby months and well into the toddler years. A well-designed baby carrier would have saved my back from serious pain because it would have allowed me to comfortably and ergonomically carry my toddler as she made her way into the 25lb+ club. One brand that's designed to grow with your baby and accommodates 7-45 pounds (up to about four years old) and offers both inward and forward-facing positions is Ergobaby. With several different design and style options, you can easily find one that caters to your parenting needs. From an all-in-one carrier, like the Omni 360, that grows with baby from the newborn stages into the toddler years or a newborn-specific carrier, like the Embrace (and don't worry you can later upgrade to a carrier for an older baby, I recommend the 360 Carrier). The best part? All ergonomic designs are supportive and comfortable for both baby and parent, offering extra lumbar support with breathable, lightweight mesh styles. Everyone (even grandparents!) can get a kick out of babywearing, which is a nice and welcomed break for parents. Having one of these on my registry would have certainly made those first few years so much easier.

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