Mom, I’ve missed you every day since moving away

I want you to always know—there is just nothing like my mama.

Mom, I’ve missed you every day since moving away

To my mama—

Remember when I was a teenager and I’d drive you crazy with all of my requests to go to a friend’s house or stay out later or drive cross-country after graduation? Remember when we’d fight and I’d be mad at you because I couldn’t process my emotions well enough to articulate my feelings in a mature way? Remember when I’d give you an attitude because I thought I knew everything and was so amazing at age 17?

Thank you, mom.

Remember when I had my first child and you were right there with me and my husband in the delivery room—holding my hand, calming me down? Remember when you stayed with me when my second daughter was born and my husband had to go back to work—because I was too nervous to be on my own? Remember when I called you crying recently saying how I didn’t know how I was supposed to do all of this? (Okay, that last one might be just about every other week…but who’s keeping track?)


Thank you, mom.

Remember when you painted with my oldest daughter for hours on end? Remember when you taught her how to whistle? Remember when you took me and my baby on a 700 mile road trip because you wanted us there and thought it’d be a fun adventure?

Thank you, mom.

Remember when you brought me that beautiful pink dress for my daughter’s baptism because I couldn’t find anything that felt good to me on my postpartum body? Remember when you told me not to put so much pressure on myself to lose the weight? Remember the countless times you told me I was beautiful—inside and out?

Thank you, mom.

Remember when you sent me flowers to celebrate an exciting accomplishment? Remember when you encouraged me to “Write your ideas down! You have a book inside of you!”? Remember when you reminded me not to doubt myself?

Thank you, mom.

I haven’t lived at “home” in New York for over ten years, because I’ve been creating a home for myself and my family in Massachusetts. Not because I wanted to be far away from you, at all. In fact, I wish I could convince you/trick you into moving up here. But I can’t because, well, that’s not exactly how life works.

And I’ve missed you every day since moving away.

And I miss you even more (if that’s possible) now that I have kids.

I miss being able to see you at the drop of a hat.

I miss—in a lot of ways—what I never had with you. I never lived near you after college. Or since having kids.

We’ve never had the opportunity for you to just drop by and hold my newborn without having to plan a specific timeframe of days that worked for you to take off from work and make sure you didn't have any appointments and book the ferry and all that jazz.

We’ve never had the opportunity to plan a movie night on a whim because my husband would be home from work at a reasonable time and I could shoot over once he got in. I’ve never been able to ask you to come to a last minute outing I planned for the kids because I could use the extra set of hands.

But even though we have these “nevers”, we also have a lot of “remembers”—we work hard at making time for each other even if we are a five hour drive away. We may not see each other quite as much as I’d like, but we still do see each other a lot. And we’re lucky for that.

So, mom...thank you.

Thank you for always being there for me when I need you—no matter what.

Thank you for always being only a phone call away.

Thank you for always being the supportive, loving mother I need in my life.

I know we don’t always agree on every single little thing, but Mom? I want you to always know—there is just nothing like my mama. No one can hug me the way you do. No one knows me the same way you do. You know the sound of my heartbeat, and I know the sound of yours.

I may not live “home” in New York anymore, but part of my home will always be there because you’re there, Mom. You have part of my heart with you always, and I yours.

Remember that time you carried me in your womb for forty weeks and gave me life?

Thank you, mom.


Your daughter

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


Watch one mama's review of the new Dr. Brown's breastfeeding line here:

This article was sponsored by Dr. Brown's. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Time-saving formula tips our editors swear by

Less time making bottles, more time snuggling.

As a new parent, it can feel like feeding your baby is a full-time job—with a very demanding nightshift. Add in the additional steps it takes to prepare a bottle of formula and, well… we don't blame you if you're eager to save some time when you can. After all, that means more time for snuggling your baby or practicing your own well-deserved self-care.

Here's the upside: Many, many formula-feeding mamas before you have experienced the same thing, and they've developed some excellent tricks that can help you mix up a bottle in record time. Here are the best time-saving formula tips from editors here at Motherly.

1. Use room temperature water

The top suggestion that came up time and time again was to introduce bottles with room temperature water from the beginning. That way, you can make a bottle whenever you need it without worrying about warming up water—which is a total lifesaver when you have to make a bottle on the go or in the middle of the night.

2. Buy online to save shopping time

You'll need a lot of formula throughout the first year and beyond—so finding a brand like Comforts, which offers high-quality infant formula at lower prices, will help you save a substantial amount of money. Not to mention, you can order online or find the formula on shelves during your standard shopping trip—and that'll save you so much time and effort as well.

3. Pre-measure nighttime bottles

The middle of the night is the last time you'll want to spend precious minutes mixing up a bottle. Instead, our editors suggest measuring out the correct amount of powder formula into a bottle and putting the necessary portion of water on your bedside table. That way, all you have to do is roll over and combine the water and formula in the bottle before feeding your baby. Sounds so much better than hiking all the way to the kitchen and back at 3 am, right?

4. Divide serving sizes for outings

Before leaving the house with your baby, divvy up any portions of formula and water that you may need during your outing. Then, when your baby is hungry, just combine the pre-measured water and powder serving in the bottle. Our editors confirm this is much easier than trying to portion out the right amount of water or formula while riding in the car.

5. Memorize the mental math

Soon enough, you'll be able to prepare a bottle in your sleep. But, especially in the beginning or when increasing your baby's serving, the mental math can take a bit of time. If #mombrain makes it tough to commit the measurements to memory, write up a cheat sheet for yourself or anyone else who will prepare your baby's bottle.

6. Warm up chilled formula with water

If you're the savvy kind of mom who prepares and refrigerates bottles for the day in advance, you'll probably want to bring it up to room temperature before serving. Rather than purchase a bottle warmer, our editors say the old-fashioned method works incredibly well: Just plunge the sealed bottle in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes and—voila!—it's ready to serve.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Errands and showers are not self-care for moms

Thinking they are is what's burning moms out.

A friend and I bump into each other at Target nearly every time we go. We don't pre-plan this; we must just be on the same paper towel use cycle or something. Really, I think there was a stretch where I saw her at Target five times in a row.

We've turned it into a bit of a running joke. "Yeah," I say sarcastically, "We needed paper towels so you know, I had to come to Target… for two hours of alone time."

She'll laugh and reply, "Oh yes, we were out of… um… paper clips. So here I am, shopping without the kids. Heaven!"

Now don't get me wrong. I adore my trips to Target (and based on the fullness of my cart when I leave, I am pretty sure Target adores my trips there, too).

But my little running joke with my friend is actually a big problem. Because why is the absence of paper towels the thing that prompts me to get a break? And why on earth is buying paper towels considered a break for moms?

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