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On International Women’s Day, we celebrate 10 everyday women who do extraordinary things

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Today, on International Women's Day, the world is thinking about and honoring all the incredible women who have left their mark on the world. But you don't have to be a First Lady, a STEM pioneer, a politician, a #girlboss or a Duchess to be worthy of recognition today.

On Instagram we asked you, #TeamMotherly, to tell us about the women you are celebrating today. You told us you want to recognize your own mothers, sisters and BFFs.

International Women's Day isn't just about the women who influence the course of history, it's about the women who influence our daily lives. The women who are holding our hands (and sometimes our babies) as we blaze our own trail as modern mamas.

Here are 10 of those incredible women:

1. @angilinabae's mama inspiration 

@angilinabae: "Her name is Jenna (@_thatjennagirl) and her daughter was diagnosed with SMA1 [Spinal muscular atrophy 1] 6 months after she was born. It is a genetic disease that is one of the main killers of infants, but she did not let it destroy her. She became an advocate for her daughter and, unfortunately, her daughter passed away at almost two years old. She stayed strong for her throughout everything life threw at them. She is an amazing mama."

2. @bingy15's wife and parenting partner 

@bingy15: "The one on the right is my wife, I'm the one on the left. We just had our baby girl on January 11th and my wife has been an AMAZING partner. Allie is a wonderful wife, friend and now mother. Our baby Karsyn and I are so incredibly lucky to call her ours."

3. @torilemieux's role model mom 


@torilemieux: "This is my mom! I just had my third boy in December (my other boys are 2 + 4) and she stayed with us for a month to help. Afterwards, we went to Florida and stayed with her for 2 weeks. She is the most selfless woman I know and if I could be half the mom she is, I am doing good!"

4. @linseyhaxby's strong sister 

@linseyhaxby: "My sister Stephanie (in the pink) is the oldest of 3 girls in our family so I have always looked up to her and admired her in every way. She now has three girls of her own and takes on motherhood with grace + strength. We just had our babies 9 weeks apart, and I get the fabulous opportunity to talk to her everyday. She is my sounding board for all things motherhood. She is the kind of mother I aspire to be."

5. @dhrutikavansia's long-distance BFF

@dhrutikavansia: "This is my best friend Gaby. She lives in Canada and I live in Malawi so we rarely get to see each other, but Gaby was my saving grace during my first few weeks as a new mum. I struggled a lot with postpartum emotionally and Gaby visited us all the way from Canada to the UK when my son was 2 ½ weeks. Her presence was so uplifting and she always reminds me how important it is to trust my own instincts"

6. @littleavalyn's chosen mother

@littleavalyn: "This is my official mom, as she legally adopted me on June 13th, 2017. She [was] first my college advisor, then my favorite professor, and because she was never able to successfully have children and I came from a broken home, we bonded almost immediately. She has been my 'unofficial' mom since 2010 and has been there for me as my mom through the premature birth of my baby and all the little ups and downs. She is my constant cheerleader, my emotional support, and my confidante. I couldn't be more blessed with my found family."

7. @north_west_jess' internet BFF

@north_west_jess: "This amazing woman, friend and mama is my INTERNET BESTIE, Julian (@julianjamie). We somehow found each other on Instagram and started texting IRL and are truly kindred spirits. She is hilarious, beautiful and strong with a wicked sense of humor. She mothers her children with grace + sacrifice."

​8. @poolerosita's daughter's godmother 

@poolerosita: "The godmother of my daughter (@thejenpiner) is one of the most amazing people I know. Early in her marriage she was diagnosed with seven blood disorders and unable to safely carry a child of her own. A year ago, she and her husband adopted a beautiful baby boy with down syndrome. As we anticipated, she would go above and beyond the call of duty as a mother and advocate for him like no one I've ever known. She is a pillar in our village."

9. ​@buttonup_girl's much bonded mum

@buttonup_girl: "My mum guided me through childbirth and I don't think I could've gotten through it without her in the room. The bond that we share and the bond that she shares with my daughter has now been strengthened forever. She's an amazing grandma who will drop everything to be there for me and my daughter. I love raising my little lady with her by my side."

​10. @v_robichaud's momspirational Megan 

@v_robichaud: "Megan is pregnant with her third and such an inspiration to me! Managing the kids on-the-go, working late nights after long days with the kids all while keeping the house clean, the laundry done and producing healthy meals on the table with a smile on her face. Her determination to keep self-care in the mix while being so busy motivates me!"

These 10 women are inspiring the moms who nominated them, but there is one more mom on the list today: YOU.

You're doing great, mama. And don't forget it, especially today. Celebrate yourself, it is International Women's Day, after all.

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There are certain moments of parenthood that stay with us forever. The ones that feel a little extra special than the rest. The ones that we always remember, even as time moves forward.

The first day of school will always be one of the most powerful of these experiences.

I love thinking back to my own excitement going through it as a child—the smell of the changing seasons, how excited I was about the new trendy outfit I picked out. And now, I get the joy of watching my children go through the same right of passage.

Keep the memory of this time close with these 10 pictures that you must take on the first day of school so you can remember it forever, mama:

1. Getting on the school bus.

Is there anything more iconic than a school bus when it comes to the first day of school? If your little one is taking the bus, snap a photo of them posed in front of the school bus, walking onto it for the first time, or waving at you through the window as they head off to new adventure.

2. Their feet (and new shoes!)

Getting a new pair of shoes is the quintessential task to prepare for a new school year. These are the shoes that will support them as they learn, play and thrive. Capture the sentimental power of this milestone by taking photos of their shoes. You can get a closeup of your child's feet, or even show them standing next to their previous years of first-day-of-school shoes to show just how much they've grown. If you have multiple children, don't forget to get group shoe photos as well!

3. Posing with their backpack.

Backpacks are a matter of pride for kids so be sure to commemorate the one your child has chosen for the year. Want to get creative? Snap a picture of the backpack leaning against the front door, and then on your child's back as they head out the door.

4. Standing next to a tree or your front door.

Find a place where you can consistently take a photo year after year—a tree, your front door, the school signage—and showcase how much your child is growing by documenting the change each September.

5. Holding a 'first day of school' sign.

Add words to your photo by having your child pose with or next to a sign. Whether it's a creative DIY masterpiece or a simple printout you find online that details their favorites from that year, the beautiful sentiment will be remembered for a lifetime.

6. With their graduating class shirt.

When your child starts school, get a custom-designed shirt with the year your child will graduate high school, or design one yourself with fabric paint (in an 18-year-old size). Have them wear the shirt each year so you can watch them grow into it—and themselves!

Pro tip: Choose a simple color scheme and design that would be easy to recreate if necessary—if your child ends up skipping or repeating a year of school and their graduation date shifts, you can have a new shirt made that can be easily swapped for the original.

7. Post with sidewalk chalk.

Sidewalk chalk never goes out of style and has such a nostalgic quality to it. Let your child draw or write something that represents the start of school, like the date or their teacher, and then have them pose next to (or on top of) their work.

8. In their classroom.

From first letters learned to complicated math concepts mastered, your child's classroom is where the real magic of school happens. Take a few pictures of the space where they'll be spending their time. They will love remembering what everything looked like on the first day, from the decorations on the wall to your child's cubby, locker or desk.

9. With their teacher.

If classrooms are where the magic happens, teachers are the magicians. We wish we remembered every single teach we had, but the truth is that over time, memories fade. Be sure to snap a photo of your child posing with their teacher on the first day of school.

10. With you!

We spend so much time thinking about our children's experience on the first day of school, we forget about the people who have done so much to get them there—us! This is a really big day for you too, mama, so get in that photo! You and your child will treasure it forever.

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Last month Granger Smith and his wife, Amber, shared a story no parent would every want to. Their son, River, drowned at their home—and despite attempts to revive him—the little boy died tragically at just 3 years old. But River's parents managed to find some good in this absolutely devastating loss: They chose to donate their son's organs, saving two lives in the process.

River's mom, Amber, opened up about this choice in a heartbreaking Instagram post.

"I've always known I wanted to be a donor if anything were to ever happen to me," Amber writes alongside a photo of River. "Never in a million years did I think I would be making that decision for my baby."

Our hearts hurt so badly for this mama—but we're also amazed by her ability to find a way to turn her worst-case scenario into a lifesaving measure for other families.

Amber shares more about her family's gut-wrenching experience in the post, writing that doctors told Amber and Granger their son had no chance of brain recovery. As shocking as that was to hear, the parents knew they wanted to donate River's organs as there are so many people who need donations to survive.

That choice began a three-day process of determining which organs could be donated and which recipients would be appropriate. Amber shares excruciating details about the night before River's operation.

 River's organs saved two adults

"I spent the night laying in bed with him, crying and talking to him while they kept running tests and taking blood. The next morning family and staff lined the hall for the 'walk of honor.' We told them River liked to go fast, so to honor him, they pushed him down that hall faster than they had ever pushed anyone. Granger and I held each other and cried," Amber writes.

It's all so terribly tragic...but the outcome is bittersweet. Amber and Granger received a letter explaining that River's organs saved two adults, a 49-year-old woman and a 53-year-old man. Amber calls the decision to donate her precious son's organs the hardest and easiest of her life.

Our thoughts continue to be with River's family. We can't even imagine what they're going through, but their strength and grace in the face of all this is incredible—and we hope they'll always find comfort in the fact that little River left a beautiful, heroic, lifesaving legacy behind.

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Many new parents receive the confusing news that their newborn baby has a tongue-tie. It means the skin attaching their tongues to the bottom of their mouths is longer than normal. And while this condition can cause complications from infancy on, a new study shows that not all newborns need to get surgery to correct it.

The condition is known as ankyloglossia, which occurs in 4-10% of people, usually looks like nothing but an extra strip of skin under the tongue. But because that skin (called the lingual frenulum) acts like a taut rubber band restricting movement, babies with a tongue-tie often have difficulty forming a good latch to nurse. This can mean they don't get enough milk, so they have to nurse for longer. Meanwhile, they're causing their mother a whole lot of pain because their latch is shallower and mostly clamping down on the tip of the nipple.

I speak from experience here: When my son had a tongue-tie, it felt like I was feeding an angry piranha. He was definitely not getting enough to eat, and my milk supply was steadily decreasing.

But this new study published in JAMA Otolaryngology Head & Neck Surgery suggests that not all babies diagnosed with ankyloglossia need to undergo a frenotomy—a simple procedure in which a doctor snips the skin with a pair of surgical scissors.

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Infants don't usually need anesthesia, because this tissue doesn't have many nerve endings or blood vessels. Their mother is asked to breastfeed them immediately after the snip, to get the tongue moving properly and reduce the chance of the skin growing back. According to the Mayo Clinic, complications from frenotomies include bleeding, infection and damage to the tongue or salivary glands, but they are rare.

What's not rare is the number of patients getting frenotomies: Referrals for the procedure in the U.S. went up tenfold, from 1,200 in 1997 to 12,400 in 2012.

"We have seen the number of tongue-tie and upper lip tether release surgeries increase dramatically nationwide without any real strong evidence that shows they are effective for breastfeeding," study co-author Christopher J. Hartnick, MD MS, of the Massachusetts Eye and Ear Infirmary, said in a press release.

The researchers looked at 115 infants (between 19-56 days old) who were referred for a frenotomy. Instead of sending them straight into surgery, the babies and their parents met with a pediatric speech-language pathologist for a feeding evaluation. These specialists observed the babies breastfeeding and gave parents feedback and tips to overcome any challenges they were experiencing. After this, 72 (62.6%) patients did not have the frenotomy after all, while 10 (8.7%) had a labial frenotomy (releasing extra tissue from the lips) and 32 (27.8%) had both a labial and lingual frenotomy.

"We don't have a crystal ball that can tell us which infants might benefit most from the surgeries, but this preliminary study provides concrete evidence that this pathway of a multidisciplinary feeding evaluation is helping prevent babies from getting this procedure," Hartnick said.

For now, parents' best bet is to consult more than one specialist to identify the best plan of action. In addition to lactation consultants, children with tongue-ties might need to see speech pathologists later. In some cases, the frenulum loosens over time. In others, they might wind up needing the procedure after all.

Anecdotally, I'll add that I visited with lactation consultants and my son's pediatrician more than once before deciding he should have a frenotomy. It was no fun for me (who wants a strange man sticking scissors in their baby's mouth?), but my kid was fine. It didn't solve all our problems, but feeding was much less painful immediately afterward.

The bottom line here seems to be that not everyone needs to rush into a procedure just because it's easy. Our kiddos deserve more than a one-size-fits-all approach to their health.

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Baby Archie is a busy little guy. All eyes were on him at his recent christening, and when he showed up to watch his dad play at the King Power Royal Charity Polo Day he (and his cute cousins) stole the show.

The main event is supposed to be Prince Harry and Prince William facing off as opponents in the charity polo match, but really, Archie was the star.

The newest little royal was comfy in his mama's arms on Wednesday, getting lots of love from the Duchess as the Dukes of Sussex and Cambridge played polo.

This marks Archie's first public outing and he wore a cute little white romper for the casual event. His mom wore a simple olive green Lisa Marie Fernandez dress and Givenchy aviator sunglasses. Archie's aunt, Kate Middleton, wore a dress she's worn before, a cute pink LK Bennet outfit with her classic Ray-Ban sunglasses.

Check out all the photos from Archie's adorable day out with the royal family:

Baby Archie was chilling with his mama while his cousin Prince Louis was hanging with his own mama just behind them and seemed to be a lot more active than little Archie.

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Looking into your baby's eyes. It's one of the sweetest things a new parent can do—and one of the most powerful ways a parent can connect with their baby.

After all, newborns can't speak or even socially smile in those early days but, according to a study, they can certainly communicate with you via those sweet little glances. And the connection that's forged when you make eye contact with your baby is far stronger than we ever imagined.

According to researchers from the University of Cambridge and Nanyang Technological University in Singapore, eye contact between a baby and adult causes both parties brain waves to fall into sync. How amazing is that?

And it gets even better: The researchers also believe this mental sync may be the first step towards improved communication between parent and child in adulthood.

Here's how the research team came to this finding. They observed 17 8-month-old babies by utilizing EEG caps, which cover a child's head in electrodes so brain activity can be monitored. The babies then watched videos featuring adults singing nursery rhymes. Some videos featured the adults singing while looking straight at the baby, while others featured the adult looking at the baby with their head turned to a 20-degree angle or looking away from the baby entirely.

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They observed this link without the videos as well. The researcher also sat with a group of babies while both adults and infants wore EEG caps to capture glimpses of their brain activities. In both cases, the brain waves between babies and adults synced up when direct eye contact was made. When eyes wandered, this connection seemed to weaken.

The idea that your brain activity and your baby's can actually mirror one another is just mind-blowing (no pun intended!). The research suggests that there's a sort of meeting halfway at work here: Babies' brains adjust to become more like the adults', and vice versa. The researchers believe this phenomenon gives us some greater insight into babies and their abilities to connect with their caregivers.

Researchers aren't quite sure what force is behind this connection, but they also believe that when eye contact is made, babies become more motivated to vocalize as well.

"When the adult and infant are looking at each other, they are signaling their availability and intention to communicate with each other," researcher Victoria Leong says in a news release. "We found that both adult and infant brains respond to a gaze signal by becoming more in sync with their partner. This mechanism could prepare parents and babies to communicate, by synchronising when to speak and when to listen, which would also make learning more effective."

This connection may pay off down the line in really amazing ways. According to ScienceNews, previous research has indicated that when groups of people's brain waves sync up, engagement can increase—and on the flip side, when people reach mutual understandings, their brain waves appear to resemble one another as well. With all that in mind, it stands to reason that this powerful baby/adult connection could pave the way for strong lifelong communication.

As mamas, we know that those still, simple moments with our babies are some of the sweetest. Just snuggling and looking into each other's eyes can feel so powerful. Even if no words are exchanged, that bond you're creating just feels overwhelmingly real. And if this research is any indication, it isn't just in our imaginations: Those sweet moments are actually bringing us and our babies closer in ways that will continue to fuel the parent/child relationship down the line.

So remember: Those times you opted to neglect the laundry or the dishes in favor of just looking at the miracle you created? Those moments were more powerful than you even realized, mama.

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