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Chrissy Teigen's viral tweet about childcare was refreshingly honest

But it also shows that all moms need this, not just celebrity ones.

Chrissy Teigen's viral tweet about childcare was refreshingly honest

Chrissy Teigen has made an amazing, multifaceted career for herself as a host, an author and a one-woman brand. The mom of two is very busy. It's easy for the rest of us to look at her and wonder how she does it (and perhaps why we can't), but Chrissy isn't keeping the secret to her success a mystery. It's pretty simple.

"I have HELP and a half. That's it," she explained when a Twitter follower asked her about balancing pregnancy, the fourth trimester and new motherhood with her super busy career.

She continues: "I'm so lucky to have it and I don't know how anyone else does it."

It's no secret that Chrissy's mom, Vilailuck Teigen (better known as @Pepperthai2 on social media) helps her out a lot, and, of course, Chrissy and John can also afford high-quality childcare that meets their family's needs, something many families who aren't celebrity millionaires struggle to do. Plus, as Chrissy mentioned in her tweet, her employer provided a daycare room on the set of her new show, Bring The Funny.

It's so awesome that Chrissy's out here saying "I have HELP" instead of perpetuating the myth of the mom who does it all. There are not enough hours in the day to do what Chrissy does professionally without help. You've got to delegate sometimes. You've got to know your limits.

And you've got to let go of the guilt. You can't be working like Chrissy without a nanny or day care—and there's no reason to feel guilty about either. A nanny can be an amazing resource for a family (if you can afford one) and quality, center-based day care is good for children's social and emotional development.

A commenter on Twitter said it best: "I don't care if you have billions of dollar or you're a single mom, just admit that you need help because IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A TINY HUMAN."

That user is 100% correct. It takes a village and Chrissy is so lucky to have one because too many moms don't. It's so cool that Chrissy's workplace and other forward-thinking companies provide day care options, but most employers don't. Parents who don't have Chrissy's privilege are contending with day care bills that are equal to rent or college tuition, and that forces many moms to go without it and stretch themselves beyond what is humanly possible.

Listen, Chrissy's right: It's not possible to do it without help. But you shouldn't have to be one of the most famous women in the world to get that help. We all need it.

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My village lives far away—but my Target baby registry helped them support me from afar

Virtual support was the next best thing to in-person hugs

They say you shouldn't make too many major life transitions at once. But when I was becoming a mama for the first time nearly five years ago, my husband and I also moved to a new town where we didn't know a soul, bought our first house and changed jobs.

To put it mildly, we didn't heed that advice. Luckily, our family and friends still made it feel like such a magical time for us by supporting our every move (literal and otherwise) from afar. They showered us with love through a virtual baby shower (expectant parents nowadays can relate!) featuring the unwrapping of gifts they were able to ship straight to me from my Target registry.

Here's one piece of advice I did take: I registered at Target so I could take advantage of the retailer's benefits for registrants, which include a welcome kit valued over $100, a universal registry function and more. Fast-forward a few years and Target has made the registration perks even better for expectant parents: As of August 2020, they've added a Year of Exclusive Deals, which gives users who also sign up for Target Circle a full year of savings after baby is born on all those new mama essentials, from formula to diapers and beyond.

Honestly, even without the significant perks of a free welcome kit with more than $100 in coupons, additional 15% off coupons to complete the registry and a full year of free returns, registering at Target wasn't a hard sell for me: Even though the experience of shopping for baby items was new, shopping with Target felt like returning home to me… and the comfort of that was such a gift.

And of course, Target's registry plays a vital role right now, as expectant parents everywhere are being forced to cancel in-person baby showers and navigate early parenthood without the help of a hands-on village. A registry like this represents a safe way for communities to come through for new parents. If you're anything like me (or any of the other mamas here at Motherly), you certainly have emotional ties and fond memories associated with Target.

What to register for at Target was also an easy talking point as I began to connect with moms in my new community. I will always remember going on a registry-building spree with my next door neighbor, who had young children of her own. As we walked the aisles of Target back in 2015, she suggested items to add… and we laid the foundation for what has since become one of my most cherished friendships.

Even as I made connections in my new hometown, I was nervous that expecting my first baby wouldn't feel as special as if I were near family and friends. But my loved ones exceeded all expectations by adding the most thoughtful notes to gifts. They hosted a beautiful virtual baby shower and even encouraged me to keep the registry going after my baby made his debut and new needs arose.

In the years since, "community" has taken on a wonderfully complex new meaning for me… and, in these times of social distancing, for the rest of the world. I've come to cherish my newfound friends in our local community alongside those long-time friends who are scattered around the county and my virtual mama friends.

Now, as my friends' families grow, I'm so grateful that I can show them the same love and support I felt during my first pregnancy. I sing the praises of Target's baby registry—especially in light of the pandemic, since I know mamas can do everything from a distance thanks to Target's website and the added benefit of getting trusted reviews and helpful registry checklists.

And now that I'm on the gift-buying side of the equation, I've found new joy in picking thoughtful gifts for my friends. (Because goodness knows Target has something for everyone!)

For my friend who is a fellow runner, I teamed up with a few others to give the jogging stroller she had on her registry.

For my friend who is a bookworm, I helped her start her baby's library with a few books that are also well-loved in our home.

For other friends, I've bundled together complete "sets" with everything they need for bathing or feeding their children.

I know from my own experience that, yes, the registry purchases are so appreciated, but the thoughtfulness and the support they represent means even more. Because although my village may have been distant, the support they showed me was the next best thing to in-person hugs.

Start your own Target Baby Registry here to experience a Year of Benefits including a Year of Exclusive Deals through Target Circle to enjoy for a full year following your baby's arrival, a year of free returns, two 15% off completion coupons and a free welcome kit ($100 value).

This article was sponsored by Target. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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