8 steps to the best date night in

Just because you don't feel like a night out on the town doesn't mean you can't still celebrate with the one you love.

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As a parent, planning a night out requires a lot of work. And, although we love a good date night as much as the next person, sometimes it's just too much to even think about.

In this crazy, hectic, exhaustion-filled season we call motherhood, it's okay to admit we can't always have (or want) it all. But just because you don't feel like a night out on the town doesn't mean you can't still celebrate with the one you love. (In fact, we'd argue that now is when you need each other the most.)

It's time for the ultimate date night in—and we've got everything you need to make it happen.

Step 1: Set the mood

anthro candle

What's a romantic night in without a little mood lighting? These hand-poured soy-wax candles make the perfect backdrop for the ultimate date night in; scatter a few around the room and set the mood for the evening ahead. We're partial to the Volcano scent, a mix of tropical fruits with just the right hint of citrus.


Step 2: Relax, relax, relax

at home massage service zeel

Now it's time to relax + unwind—all without having to leave the comforts of your living room. Zeel offers in-home massages on demand with a few taps on your phone. Simply choose the type of massage you prefer (we recommend the Couples Massage, of course!), and the length of time, and you're good to go. And all of Zeel's massage therapists are licensed, insured, and verified through various ID services to put any safety concerns at ease. Pricing varies based on your location!


Step 3: Order in

doordash delivery

You're going to work up an appetite after all of that relaxing, so bid farewell to your masseuse and hello to your favorite meal delivered right to your door. Available in most major cities + suburbs and expanding every day, DoorDash brings the restaurant food you love right to your doorstep via their quick + easy iOS or Android app. All that's left for you to do is sit back, eat and enjoy.


Step 4: Get cozy

chenille blanket

A romantic date night in isn't complete without some serious snugglin'. We can't get enough of this super soft, super cozy chenille throw. It's like wrapping yourself up in a warm sweater. Pro tip: it does have a tendency to shed, so toss it in the wash on delicate before your first cuddle.


Step 5: Declare your love

love notes

This one may sound a bit cheesy but bear with us for a moment. When was the last time you truly took the time to tell your significant other how much you love them? How much you appreciate all they do for you?

Writing an open-ended letter can be tough, which is why we love this beautiful book—the prompts make it super easy to speak from the heart. It will also be fun to revisit the book in a few years' time and remember that moment in your relationship.


Step 6: Take a walk down memory lane

artifact uprising book

Since you're still cozied up under your blanket, now's the perfect time to break out the old photo albums and spend some time reliving cherished memories. Have a wedding video or album you haven't watched in forever? Now's the time.

Or break out those college photos and have a good laugh over how "tired" you thought you were then. And if you're ready to make some new memories, we swoon over these hardcover photo books from Artifact Uprising. They're heirloom quality and will truly make your memories shine.


Step 7: Indulge

jenis splendid ice cream

It's getting late, but it's never too late for ice cream. Our obsession with Jeni's Splendid ice cream is probably at an unhealthy level (both in the literal and figurative sense!), but ask us if we care. This ice cream is SERIOUSLY. SO. GOOD.

The flavors range from classic to out of the box, and the ice cream uses whole ingredients and dairy from grass-pastured cows. It comes beautifully packaged and right to your doorstep on dry ice. It's a bit of a splurge, but we promise it's well worth it.

Check out their Valentine's Day gift guide for a curated selection of extra delicious treats.


Step 8: Bring the sexy back

adore me lingerie

We can't think of a better way to end the Ultimate Date Night In than...well, you know. 😉 Adore Me offers a huge range of modern, flirty designs for every body type. You can shop online, or you can get even bigger savings by becoming a VIP member. Members take a style quiz and receive personalized suggestions every month, and the first set is only $24.95.


Step 9: Wind down with a book

how to not hate your husband after kids

Whether you're currently living it or just hoping to avoid post-baby stress, How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids is an honest, hilarious and helpful tool to keep your relationship in check after becoming a parent. Author Jancee Dunn has gathered the most useful tips and tricks from therapists, parenting experts, and even financial gurus, while mixing in personal, relatable anecdotes that will have you nodding along... and reading aloud to your partner!


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By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

For breastfeeding or pumping mamas, there is an additional layer of consideration around when, how and how much your baby will eat. Thankfully, when it comes to effective solutions for nursing or bottle-feeding your baby, Dr. Brown's puts the considerations of mamas and their babies first with products that help with every step of the process—from comfortably adjusting to nursing your newborn to introducing a bottle to efficiently pumping.

With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

Customflow™ Double Electric Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's electric pump

For efficient, productive pumping sessions, a double electric breast pump will help you get the job done as quickly as possible. Quiet for nighttime pumping sessions and compact for bringing along to work, this double pump puts you in control with fully adjustable settings.


Hands-Free Pumping Bra

Dr. Brown''s hands free pumping bra

Especially in the early days, feeding your baby can feel like a pretty consuming task. A hands-free pumping bra will help you reclaim some of your precious time while pumping—and all mamas will know just how valuable more time can be!


Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

Dr. Brown's manual breast pump

If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.


Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


Watch one mama's review of the new Dr. Brown's breastfeeding line here:

This article was sponsored by Dr. Brown's. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.

And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

SONTAKEY  I Am Enough Bracelet

May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3


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