These viral comics perfectly capture the mental load of motherhood

Paula Kuka is the artist behind Common Wild and she's in our brains.

These viral comics perfectly capture the mental load of motherhood

You've probably seen her drawings in her feed. Paula Kuka is the Australian mother and artist behind the popular Instagram account, @common_wild. She has two kids, a ton of talent and an uncanny ability to create art that captures exactly what so many other moms are feeling.

We had the chance to ask Paula a few questions about her life, her art and how other moms have responded to her humorous illustrations that so perfectly explain how the rest of us are feeling.

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Here's our Q & A with Paula Kuka of Common Wild:

Motherly: Why did you start doing this type of art? 

Paula: I started up my illustration business while I was at home with my son and it was when I was pregnant with my second child it started to gain momentum. I had taken a year off work with my first baby but I had barely left the hospital with my second and I was itching to get back to drawing.

I didn't want the pressure of customers and clients while I was adjusting to being a mum to two kids so I decided to embark on a little personal project. I'm terrible at keeping baby books up to date, so I decided to document those days with illustrations. I wanted to record the funny things my kids did and said, their milestones, the blissful moments, the chaos.

"My idea was I would turn them into a book to give my kids when they were older. One of my first drawings expressed the internal struggle mothers feel of simultaneously needing space and wanting to inhale their children's scent when they aren't with them. The response to that drawing was overwhelming. This was the point I realized they needed to be public. From there my drawings became more about the emotional experience of being a mother.

Motherly: Which piece has recieved the biggest reaction? 

Paula: My four-part illustration "You are not alone" has probably had the biggest response. I show a woman feeding her baby at night and the words "the nights might feel lonely" and as you zoom out you can see more and more women up at night with their babies. I received so many heart-wrenching messages from women all over the world who said seeing this image helped them through some tough times.

On a lighter note, the drawing comparing changing a baby to wrestling a crocodile was reposted thousands of times.

Motherly: Do the reactions women have to your work ever surprise you?

Paula: Always! I often get nervous before I post as I really am putting my emotions out there for the world to see. But within a few minutes I have hundreds of other mums saying "me too!" I'm amazed at some of the profoundly deep responses people have to the drawings, I had no idea they could be so powerful. I'm amazed that seeing a drawing can have such a big impact on someone's day. It's very humbling.

On a very positive note, I have honestly been surprised at how few negative comments I get. Social media can be a scary and ruthless place and yet I could count the negative comments I've had on one hand. I love reading through the comments and seeing mums commenting and supporting other mums, that they have never met. It's incredibly uplifting and heart-warming.

Motherly: What story are you trying to tell here?

Paula: One thing I have learned through this is how universal motherhood is. I receive messages from women all over the world. It has been enlightening that the trivial and humorous parenting moments and the intense and emotional frustrations that I am having in Australia are relatable to people everywhere.

I would love for Mums to know that they aren't alone. I would love to make someone laugh when the feel like crying. I would love to help eradicate some the guilt and pressure we place on ourselves. I want parents to know that just because you have moments of boredom or frustration it doesn't mean you love your children any less.

I entered motherhood expecting to be 100% satisfied and in a blissful bubble and that the only alternative was post-natal depression. I didn't realize there was a huge middle ground—and I believe this with where most mums fit. I hope that my work celebrates and normalizes this middle ground.

You can follow Paula on Instagram and Facebook. Her art is available for purchase in her online store.

[A version of this post was originally published June 7, 2019. It has been updated.]

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Taking a birth class is a pregnancy milestone. Whether you've been excited to take a birth class for a long time or have just recently decided that you wanted to take one, sitting down for that first lesson feels big—spoiler alert, this is really happening! But finding time for a birth class isn't as easy as it would seem.

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14 toys that will keep your kids entertained inside *and* outside

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

Keeping kids entertained is a battle for all seasons. When it's warm and sunny, the options seem endless. Get them outside and get them moving. When it's cold or rainy, it gets a little tricker.

So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of the best toys for toddlers and kids that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, many are Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these indoor outdoor toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.


Secret Agent play set

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This set has everything your little secret agent needs to solve whatever case they might encounter: an ID badge, finger scanner, walkie-talkie handset, L-shaped scale and coloring comic (a printable file is also available for online download) along with a handy belt to carry it all along. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

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Mini golf set

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Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

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Stepping Stones

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Wooden doll stroller

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Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.

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Sand play set

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Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.

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Sensory play set

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Filled with sand or water, this compact-sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

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Vintage scooter balance bike

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Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

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Foam pogo stick

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Designed for ages 3 and up, My First Flybar offers kiddos who are too young for a pogo stick a frustration-free way to get their jump on. The wide foam base and stretchy bungee cord "stick" is sturdy enough to withstand indoor and outdoor use and makes a super fun addition to driveway obstacle courses and backyard races. Full disclosure—it squeaks when they bounce, but don't let that be a deterrent. One clever reviewer noted that with a pair of needle-nose pliers, you can surgically remove that sucker without damaging the base.

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Dumptruck 

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Whether they're digging up sand in the backyard or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? It's made from recycled plastic milk cartons.

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Hopper ball

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Pull-along ducks

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Baby forest fox ride-on

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Meadow ring toss game

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15 stylish back-to-school haircuts for kids

Give them back-to-school confidence with a fresh new style.

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With a fresh haircut, your child can get a major confidence boost in time for the first day of school. With back-to-school season in full swing, book those hair appointments soon in time for classes to be in session. Whether your child wants a simple haircut, an intricate hair style, or even hair dye for kids, there are plenty of options to consider before school starts.

Boost confidence for the first day of school with one of these hair cuts for kids.


1. Fringe

An easy way to create a whole new look is to add fringe. Piecey bangs over the forehead can give your child extra confidence as they prepare for the first day of school.

2. Fade

For shorter styles, the fade is a popular haircut for kids these days. Plus, with summer's high temperatures still in full swing during back-to-school season, this hairstyle will also keep kids cool.

3. Bob

Another cooling option, the shorter bob style offers a lot of versatility. Go for a short bob with a length that lands around the ears, or keep it long for a "lob" that hits just above the shoulders.

4. Hidden undercut

This hairstyle involves shaving the hair around the bottom half of the back of the head. It usually often includes shaving a pattern. With hair left down, you can't tell this cool feature is there, but pull hair up into a ponytail or bun, and the pattern is an artistic addition to any hairstyle.

5. Braids

Try out classic braids in natural hair for a protective style that is also long-lasting with easy maintenance. Add beads or bows for a cute addition that will complement any first-day outfits, too.

6. Mohawk

For a spunky look, shave hair into a mohawk that is longer on top and shorter on the sides. Use gel to style the mohawk, including in the iconic spikes that stand straight up.



7. Faux hawk

If your child isn't quite committed to shaving the sides of their head, you can also try a temporary faux hawk by pulling hair taut along the sides of the head and pinning it into place with longer pieces on top. This also works great with curly hair.

8. Crop

The crop is a simple, straightforward hairstyle that will look fresh for the first day of school and will also be easy to care for each morning. That's right—finally, no fights about brushing the hair before the bus comes!

9. Hair dye for kids

If your child is more experimental, you might try temporary hair dye for kids. Let them choose their favorite color, and add a few stripes throughout their hair for a bold but school-appropriate hairstyle.

10. Quiff

The quiff features a long, side-swept top with shorter, often faded sides. It's an on-trend look that isn't overly fussy, although a little gel or pomade in the mornings can help keep the longer hair on top stay in place.

11. Deva cut

You love those perfectly curly ringlets in your child's hair, so take care of them with the proper haircut! The Deva cut is designed especially for naturally curly hair. It involves the stylist cutting dry hair, so they can better shape hair to the natural curls. The result? Full, bouncy curls that will give your child all the confidence they need for heading back to school.

12. Pixie

A tousled pixie haircut for kids will look stylish and refined with minimal effort. Plus, it's a shorter style that will keep kids cool as they run around outside for recess.

13. Asymmetrical

An asymmetrical cut will offer a unique, interesting style that plays well with a variety of different hair textures and thicknesses. Plus, you can easily accessories with various clips or bows on one side.

14. Buns

As far as hairstyles for kids goes, buns can be as easy or complex as you'd like. Pull all the hair back into one chic, effortless messy bun, or add braids and hair accessories for a more formal look.

15. Crew cut

The classic crew cut will offer an adorable and timeless look. It's an especially great style for kids with thicker hair.

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