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Dear husband: Thank you for ‘getting’ me—especially in this busy season of parenting

You know Ben & Jerry’s will cure any bad day (Cherry Garcia on a bad day, Salted Caramel Core on a really bad day).

Dear husband: Thank you for ‘getting’ me—especially in this busy season of parenting

My love,

There’s no one who knows me like you do. I’m so grateful for that, yet sometimes it actually works against me. (As we both know.) There’s no getting away with just, “I’m fine” when I’m not or a, “Yep, I’m going to bed in five minutes, see you in there!” when five minutes inevitably turns into two hours.


You know my tricks, you know my secrets, you know every bit of realness there is of me.

You, for better or for worse, “get” me.

During the long, busy days of parenting young children, you understand that coming home and cooking burgers for dinner is the way to my heart. (Bonus points: You know exactly how I like my burger cooked and cook it that way without any criticism for wanting it extra well done.)

You know that Ben & Jerry’s will cure any bad day (Cherry Garcia on a bad day, Salted Caramel Core on a really bad day).

You know that waking me up with a hot cup of hazelnut coffee (with the *right* amount of half and half) is key to a smooth sailing kind of day. (That or just letting me sleep in…)

You know that I get annoyed when you forget to turn the windshield wipers off when we drive into a parking garage on a rainy day. (I mean. It’s not raining in the garage...you don’t need them anymore.)

You know what brand of wine to get if I’m in the mood for red and that if I’m drinking white or champagne it better be chilled pretty hardcore.

You forgive me for stealing the covers and look the other way when I don’t load the dishes in the dishwasher.

You laugh at me when I obsessively check the locks and alarm system before bed. You don’t even remind me that I checked them once already. You just, as they say, “let it go”.

You can see the switch flip when I get angry or uncomfortable about something and you either laugh at me or, again, “let it go.” (So many valuable lessons from Elsa.)

You know doing five loads of laundry (AND folding them and putting them away) is sexier than *literally* anything else in the world (and that, my friend, will serve you well.)

(You also know I just typed the word ‘literally’ in the Chris Traeger voice from Parks and Rec.)

You know you will lose the “what movie should we watch” discussion every. single. time. And you seem to be okay with that (let me know if you’re not...actually, don’t. I like winning).

You let me write about you and our marriage on the interweb for millions of people to see. (I mean, I don’t see you complaining about me calling you my muse…)

You, quirks and all, “get” me.

You know what I look like when I’m ugly crying or throwing up or have dark circles the size of outer space. And you still love me.

You know which specific pair of your sweatpants I love the most and you (mostly) respect that and never wear them.

You know that if I ever met Paul Rudd or Idris Elba, I’m allowed to ask either of them for a kiss on the lips. And I’m pretty sure you know I really would. ?

You typically let things slide when you know you’ve pushed my buttons too far and you walk away (wise decision).

You know that if we’ve run out of plain seltzer, my backup is grapefruit flavor. (Or if I’m desperate, lime.)

You know my look when I’m too tired to deal with life, when I’m at my limit, when I need a laugh.

You know my love language is carbs, cheese and anything Beyoncé.

You know the behind-the-scenes of each Instagram photo that makes its way to my feed.

You know that loud chewing makes my head feel like it's going to propel off of my body. You know I’m 5’11” even when you say I’m 6 feet. And you know I need medicine, cold cloths and the elusive mixture of complete darkness and silence when a migraine strikes.

This season of raising little kids is hard. But the fact that you know me like the back of your hand makes things easier. In the overwhelm of motherhood, the fact that you “get” me brings me comfort, security, and makes me feel loved—deeply, deeply loved.

And even on those wild days when I desperately need that pint of ice cream, I desperately need you, too.

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As you build your baby registry, look for products that go the extra mile to make your life a whole lot easier. For example, what's better than a bassinet? A bassinet that can rock by itself. And what's better than a traditional baby monitor? One that allows you to actually take a peek at your baby. Believe us when we say these upgrades can make all the difference.

Here are 10 baby gadgets that will make your life so much easier… relatively speaking, of course!


A bassinet to promote safe + sound sleep

HALO Innovations Bassinest Swivel Sleeper Essenta Series Nautical Net

The safest place for your newborn to sleep is in your room, but not in your bed. Thanks to the swivel function of the Halo Bassinest, you can easily tend to your baby during the night—which means more sleep for you, too. Trust us when we say that is the best gift you can give a new parent.

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A smart swing for your baby

4moms mamaRoo 4 Bluetooth Enabled High-Tech Baby Swing - Classic

Believe it or not, many babies are born with strong opinions about how they want to be rocked, swung or shushed to calm down. With the mamaRoo's various motions and reclining positions, you'll be able to find a setting your baby loves when you need to free up your hands for a bit.

$219.99

A complete travel system for car + sidewalk

Chicco Bravo Travel System - Indigo

No matter where the day takes you—or what mode of transportation you need to get there—getting a complete travel system for your baby will equip you for anything.

$379.99

A swaddle you don’t have to wrestle

Love To Dream Swaddle UP Original

What do babies and Harry Houdini have in common? A knack for breaking out of tight constraints—which can be a headache when swaddling is the best way to help promote good sleep. Thanks to a breakout-proof swaddle that allows your baby to sleep with their hands up, you don't have to work up a sweat just to get your baby comfortably swaddled.

$29.99

A nursery wherever you need it

Baby Trend Lil Snooze Deluxe II Nursery Center

During the early days of parenting (when you are feeding and changing your baby around the clock), having convenient access to everything you need with a go-anywhere nursery station can save you serious time and energy.

$99.99

A little help for stuffy noses

Fridababy NoseFrida Nasal Aspirator

Up until the point years down the road when your child is able to blow their own nose, the sniffles can be a real struggle—but not with a nasal aspirator that makes it easy for you to get that snot out of their nose.

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A way to keep an eye on your baby

VTech 5" Digital Video Baby Monitor - VM5251

Trust us when we say you'll sleep better when you know your baby is also sleeping soundly. That's why we're so thankful for modern-day video monitors, which allow you to check in on your sleeping baby without running the risk of waking them up when you sneak in for a peek.

$79.99

A bassinet for hands-free rocking

Simmons Kids Silent Auto Gliding Elite Bassinet - Odyssey

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$99.99

An easy way to contain diaper smells

Diaper Genie Expressions Pail

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A white noise machine that pulls double duty

Hatch Rest Sound Machine, Night Light & Time-to-Rise

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$59.99

And as for securing all these awesome products? Well, a Target baby registry is the way to do it. By creating your baby registry with Target, you will also enjoy their Year of Benefits registry program, which includes perks like a welcome kit with more than $100 in savings and samples, two 15% off coupons to complete your registry, and a full year of returns. The benefits are better than ever right now: Target just launched the Year of Exclusive Deals perk as one of its registry benefits, and this includes a year's worth of discounts on baby essentials (think diapers and formula) and comes complementary when you sign up for Target Circle.

Because while parenting may not be "easy," deciding to register with Target definitely is an easy decision. Start your Target baby registry now and enjoy shopping with a Year of Benefits featuring a Year of Exclusive Deals available via Target Circle, two 15% off coupons, a year of hassle-free returns, a free welcome kit and more!

This article was sponsored by Target. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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