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My darling, our love is a lot of small things that make up one big thing—our family

Our love looks different than it once did—but we're thriving in big ways and little ways—together, every day.

My darling, our love is a lot of small things that make up one big thing—our family

My darling,

Right now, our love is little.

Our love has made it six years and survived four moves and here we are knee-deep into parenthood with a feisty toddler and a teething baby.

Our love is only little right now because we don't have the time or energy for big love right now. The excitement and the adventures that fueled our dating years has now morphed and grown into a deeper understanding of what it means to be entirely known by another soul. And it's the little love that has helped us get there.

Throughout some of the most transformative years of my life—when I became a mother, when I took the first steps of self-discovery and learned how to love myself throughout my body stretching with each pregnancy, when I matured from girl to woman—somehow, we have found ways to connect and to love each other more and more throughout all of life's ups and downs.

Right now, our lives are lived in a routine.

Your alarm goes off before the sun rises and you're showered and dressed in a half hour. That kiss before you walk out the door is quick, and sometimes it's the only bit of closeness we'll feel until the next morning.

I scramble around the house feeding tiny mouths and dressing tiny humans and sometimes that quick late-morning phone call just to say "hello," can be the difference between a good day and a bad day.

Our love is little right now but it's not weak.

Our love is in those moments where we dance around the kitchen and sway our hips back and forth. It's that love note left in your lunchbox and it's that short back rub in bed before we fall asleep.

Our love is little right now, but it's oftentimes the little things that are actually the big things in life. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is never going to sleep angry. It is standing together and facing the world. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

And I know that loving me must feel like a marathon at times. As a woman who struggles with mild depression and anxiety, my highs and lows can be unpredictable and my temper difficult.

I imagine you feel taxed and heavy sometimes. I know I require a lot and I know that isn't always easy. But it's that hug you give me, feeling your strong embrace after a long day that restores me. You are my harbor, the port in the storm, for even my worst temperament. The way you love me—just as I am—makes me believe that I have the greatest treasure of all.

Our love is little right now, and on the surface, it may look ordinary to others. But it's anything but. It's well-worn, but not worn-out. It's idle, but not insignificant. We're learning how to balance our relationship, our personal independence, and our children—every single day.

We're learning from the trenches the true meaning of give and take, of what it means to parent young children together. Like what kind of morals and values we want to instill in them, what kind of family we want to raise.

Our love may be little right now, but it actually is big. Huge. It's creating humans together big, it's running a home and schedule together big, it's finding time for romance whenever we can big, it's raising a family together big, it's pushing through the hard times big.

It's figuring all of this out together BIG.

Marriage can be hard and marriage with children can be even harder. Our love looks different than it once did—but we're thriving in big ways and little ways—together, every day.

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One thing first in line at the chopping block? Cooking. To be fair, I like cooking. I cooked most of our meals long before I had ever even heard of social distancing. But there's something about the pandemic that suddenly made cooking every single meal feel exponentially more draining.

Enter Daily Harvest. They deliver nourishing, delicious food right to your door. Daily Harvest's mix of smoothies, bowls, flatbreads, snacks and more provide a balanced, whole food options that are as satisfying as they are nutritious. But my favorite part? When we're ready to eat, I simply pull the food from the freezer and it's ready in minutes—without any chopping, measuring or searching for a recipe. Even better, they're incredibly tasty, meaning I'm not struggling to get my girls to dig in. Not cooking has never felt so good.

Here are my 8 favorite products that are helping to lighten my load right now:

Mulberry + Dragonfruit Oat Bowl

Mulberry + Dragonfruit Oat Bowl

One thing that actually helps break up the monotony of quarantine? Trying and introducing new ingredients to my family. I love this overnight oat bowl (add milk the night before and let it set in your fridge overnight—easy-peasy!) because not only does it not compromise on nutrition, but it also helps me bring new whole fruits, vegetables and superfoods to the table with ease.

Mint + Cacao Smoothie

Mint + Cacao Smoothie

I kid you not, these taste exactly like a mint chocolate chip milkshake. (Just ask my 4-year-old, who is constantly stealing sips from my glass.) What she doesn't know? She's actually getting organic banana, spinach and chlorella with every sip. #momwin

Kabocha + Sage Flatbread

Kabocha + Sage Flatbread

Our family's eating habits have been leaning more plant-forward this year, which often means a lot of veggie washing, peeling and chopping every time I cook. That's why these flatbreads are my new best friend come lunchtime. This Kabocha + Sage Flatbread is made with a gluten-free cauliflower crust topped with kabocha squash, fennel and sage for a taste of fall in every bite. (Missing the cheese? You can add it before baking for more of a pizza feel.)

Kale + Sweet Potato Flatbread

Kale + Sweet Potato Flatbread

There's something about the combination of sweet potato crust topped with red cabbage, organic greens and an herby-cilantro sauce that is so delicious… like surprisingly delicious. I polished off this bad boy in seconds! And unlike other "veggie" crusts I've tried, these are actually clean (AKA no fillers, preservations, partially-hydrogenated oil or artificial anything). Plus, it couldn't be easier to throw in the oven between conference calls and homeschool lessons.

Cacao + Avocado Smoothie

Cacao + Avocado Smoothie

Any time I get to serve a breakfast that tastes like chocolate, it's a good day. (That goes double when it's *my* breakfast.) This rich, chocolatey smoothie is packed with organic zucchini, avocado, pumpkin seeds and pea protein for a nourishing mix of healthy fats and muscle-building protein so I can carry that baby all day long. And did I mention the chocolate?

Vanilla Bean + Apple Chia Bowl

Vanilla Bean + Apple Chia Bowl

Maybe it's just me, but after a long week of cooking, the last thing I want to do on Saturday morning is...wake up and cook. That's why these one-step breakfasts are saving my weekend. I simply add our favorite milk the night before and store the bowl in the fridge overnight. Come morning, I have a nutritious chia bowl that powers me through even the busiest day of errands. It's also Instagram-ready, which makes me feel like I'm out brunching (even if I can't remember the last time I was in a restaurant).

Cacao Nib + Vanilla Bites

Cacao Nib + Vanilla Bites

My kids have turned into snack monsters during quarantine, and I'm often struggling to find a wholesome option (that doesn't require a lot of extra cooking or else I resort to something ultra-refined and shelf-stable). These bites are the hero I never knew I needed. For one, they taste like cookie dough, but they're actually packed with chickpeas, pumpkin, dates and flax seed (among other whole ingredients). But unlike actual cookie dough, I don't have to go anywhere near my mixer to whip them up—all I have to do is pull the container out of the freezer, let them defrost a bit and we can all enjoy a treat.

Cauliflower Rice + Pesto Harvest Bowl

Cauliflower Rice + Pesto Harvest Bowl

Sometimes I have a little more time to cook, but I still want a quick, stress-free solution. (Especially because it always feels like I just cleaned up from the last meal.) I love these Harvest Bowls because they warm up in under five minutes on the stove top (or microwave!) but pack tons of flavor. The Cauliflower Rice + Pesto bowl is one of my favorites, with basil, olive oil and nutritional yeast for a hearty dish reminiscent of a mouth-watering Italian meal. When I'm feeling extra fancy, I add leftover grilled chicken or a fried egg.

Strawberry + Rich, Rippled Berry Compote Scoops

Strawberry + Rich, Rippled Berry Compote Scoops

Who doesn't want to end the day with a little something sweet? This creamy and decadent frozen treat from Daily Harvest is swirled with sweet berries and tropical dragonfruit for an antioxidant burst you'll feel good about—but that your kiddos will just think is ice cream. Go ahead, take credit for being the best mom ever.

Want to try it yourself? You can get $25 off your first box of Daily Harvest with code MOTHERLY.

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