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The only pair of postpartum jeans you need 🙌

It's hard to put into words what it feels like the first time you have to put real clothes on after having a baby. Well, actually the word (sound?) 'ughhhhhh' comes to mind.

The only pair of postpartum jeans you need 🙌

It's hard to put into words what it feels like the first time you have to put real clothes on after having a baby. Well, actually the word (sound?) 'ughhhhhh' comes to mind.

For me, my postpartum uniform was a progression: first, it was pajamas for those first few days post-baby, then I graduated to sweatpants and t-shirts and then eventually my super fancy yoga pants and my collection of "nice" t-shirts.

But then the inevitable real clothes day came. My robe had to quietly retreat back into the closet and my sweatshirt had to (finally) go down to the washer—I couldn't really be seen in either of those options outside of my home.

I mean, I didn't need a ball gown or anything, but I definitely at least needed jeans.

I had heard marvelous, magical things about American Eagle's super high-waisted jeans from my younger, cooler sister so I had ordered a pair of those in preparation for this very moment.

$49.95

As it turns out, my American Eagle jeans exceeded all my expectations. Simply put: they were everything I knew I needed but wasn't sure I was going to get from anyone. My super high-waisted jeans sit about an inch, inch and a half above my belly button which means they hold in all my extra-ness and are somehow still comfortable. (For real.) Did we mention they come in tons of washes and fits?

They are skinny jeans with significant stretch meaning they are made of actual denim, not just cotton pretend jean fabric. I love that about them. Somehow it makes me feel like a real human on those days I really need it.

PLUS, they actually make me feel really good about myself. At a time in my life and my body-acceptance journey where I have had to focus on practicing grace, understanding and most of all, self-kindness—I really appreciate being able to put on certain pieces from my wardrobe that I know will make me feel confident.

High-waisted jeans FTW. 🙌 Get yours here.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

SONTAKEY  I Am Enough Bracelet

May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3

$35

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